Can I please b*tchslap...

LP11509

...my FI's classmate who invited him to her wedding and not me?  I've known this girl for as long as FI has, and while we were never best friends or anything, I thought we were in friendly terms.  Not to mention, FI and I have been engaged since January.  And we live together. Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh.

shellydiane820

I'm sure its not a personal attack on you.  I'm sure she's just not very smart.

[Deleted User]

Yes.

ggmae

Is your FI close to her? If so, have him call and ask if it was an oversight or if you are actually not invited. If you aren't invited, I would hope that your FI would decline the invite. I agree with Shelly as well. This girl doesn't sound too bright.

ExpatPumpkin

Are you sure she didn't invite him assuming that you'd be his date? Her intention was probably to invite the two of you as a couple. Maybe someone else did the addressing, etc. and didn't know to put your name on the envelope. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt.

blackfire5th

She probably couldn't afford to invite you and doesn't realize that it is poor etiquette. She probably grouped your FI into "school friends" and since you are not a "school friend" she thought it would be okay. Sorry that it happened, however I am guilty of the same thing, although I didn't realize until later that it was bad. I invited a bunch of ladies I knew from girl scouts. I had never met their husbands and didn't invite them (not a problem, pretty common with our group). Anyways, DH and I knew one girl's FI. We decided not to invite him because DH felt if would be weird to invite the FI and not the FI's brother, who he knew better. I now know it was wrong and I feel bad about it, but all I'm saying is to not take it personally.

LP11509

She said before the invitations went out that she wasn't letting anyone bring a guest.  I thought she meant anyone who wasn't in a long term relationship.  Apparently she really meant "anyone".  But I'm still pissed off because she and I have hung out before and stuff.  I even helped her find an apartment and stuff when she moved to Ohio this past summer (I lived there at the time).

ricksang

She's an as$hat

louisvillebride21

Ditto PP. Make sure you aren't invited before you get upset. FI and I were hanging out with his friend that's getting married. We all talked wedding for awhile that night. A few days later we got the invite. My name wasn't on it and it wasn't FI and guest. FI just texted him and cleared it up. His FI just didn't know she was supposed to put me on there...

blackfire5th

Yeah, it sounds like you are much closer to her. It is very odd that she didn't invite you.

louisvillebride21

Um, ok. Nevermind. She didn't even invite actual spouses?

J&K10910

Well, that's ridiculously rude, and she sucks, but there isn't a whole lot you can do about it.I hope your FI isn't going.

LP11509

Thanks ladies. I just needed to vent here so that the next time I talk to her, I don't go off and actually b*tchslap her.  I refuse to sink to that level...but picturing it in my mind is pretty satisfying.

LP11509

Oh and no FI isn't going, and I'm not sure if she invited actual spouses or not...but my guess would be no at this point.

ggmae

Okay, yeah she sucks.

J&K10910

Good.  Sorry, I just re-read my response and it sounds a lot biitchier than I meant it to.  That does suck.

morainemom

Play dumb and send back the RSVP card with a +1.