etiquette: same date but one year later....

Going2BeMrsP

my friend got married this year on Sept 5th (09.05.09) and i am planning my wedding for Sept 5th 2010 (09.05.10).  Is it bad etiquette to have my wedding on the same date even though it's one year later?  It's labor day weekend so it's convenient for our family & friends that need to travel.any advice would be appreciated.

Nebb

No its not, and if she has a problem with it, thats an indicator that she has issues.

melishka716

She gets one day, you get one day. At the reception, if she's there, congratulate her and her hubby.

amber1011

I don't think it would be too big a deal.

vicmo5

I do not see the problem, except that it's more expensive to travel on a holiday weekend and everyone only complains about Labor Day weekend weddings. 

TheSaltyPeanut

No. It's not an issue.

vallyhoo

How close are you and this friend? Would you want this friend to be one of your attendants? Since it will be on their anniversary, I would expect them not to come, but if that's the date you and your FI want, there's nothing wrong with that.

danieliza1127

I don't think it would be a problem at all, but if you plan to ask her to be a BM,  you might want to run it past her first.  If she and her H make plans to celebrate their anniversary, she may not be able to attend your wedding.

SwedishChick2011

No, it's not bad etiquette at all.  She doesn't own September 5.

TheSaltyPeanut

FYI I had a Labor Day weekend this year and it was AWESOME and no one complained. In fact, it worked our really great with everyone's schedules since many guests were/are military. The older guests enjoyed having the extra day to play around.

lyndausvi

no it's should not be an issue.

ffmaid

Of course not Although it is her first anniversary so be ok if she declines your wedding over her own 1 year anniversary

bbyckes

Please don't be concerned about this.  There is no etiquette that says you can't get married on the same date as your friend.

[Deleted User]

No, it's not bad etiquette at all. She doesn't own September 5.Damn it! I was so planning on owning May 8th.

jessiegirl_98

you're fine. We booked ours for DH's cousin first anniversary without even thinking about it (oops) and his cousin was a GM. If you tried to work around all of the anniversary possibilities, you probably wouldn't have a date.

drbwedding

Not an issue at all. We just had our wedding on the 1 year anniversary of one of my husband's friends. They came and were so excited they didn't have to plan anything that night. It was like an anniversary celebration for them. We were married Labor Day weekend and our guests were psyched they had a long weekend in Chicago. 83% responded yes and we didn't have a single no-show. There were guests that couldn't make it due to expensive travel, but we were OK with that and knew to expect that. Thankfully, all the people we really wanted there were able to attend.

kriserin

I don't think it's an issue at all to get married on their anniversary.  My sister got married on her friend's first anniversary and when dessert was served she arranged for their plate to say "happy anniversary" in chocolate.  It was a small gesture but the couple really appreciated that she had thought of them at her own wedding.