Breach of Etiquette

wed0608

Hey Everybody,I am in a wedding this weekend and will be attending a couple more this fall. I don't know if I'm being overly sensitive or what, but it seems that a lot of people have some pretty poor wedding etiquette anymore. So I want to know what you all have seen and been annoyed by when it comes to wedding etiquette, and whether or not I am just totally weird to be bothered by this stuff. Some examples that I have personally experienced in the last couple of years:-Registry info in nearly every wedding (not shower) invite I have received-Notes on registries specifying that the couple would prefer cash-Stopping all reception activities so that the couple can open their gifts-Handing out envelopes at a shower for guests to fill out their address for thank-you notes-Asking someone who isn't involved in the wedding in any way other than being invited to plan your bachelorette party-INFORMING someone else that they will be planning the bachelorette party when the first person declines-Inviting multiple people to two bridal showers (and expecting a gift at the wedding too)Those are the ones I can think of off the top of my head. Am I wrong to be offended at some of this stuff?

JenSean2011

One of my friends had 2 bachlorette parties because a couple of people couldn't make it to the one the bridesmaids planned and the MOH flipped out because they were going bar hopping and she wasn't invited.I have received numerous STD's from friends via email or myspace. I can't stand it.I also had one friend send out a mass bulletin on myspace asking for everyones addresses since we all were invited and then no invitation came but another bulletin asking for everyone to send a gift to such and such address off of their registry at such and such.

kinsey0628

no you are not wrong, those are all pretty offensive and tacky

LibertarianBride

I see what you're getting at, but I personally wouldn't be offended by tacky people.  I just kind of sit back and laugh, and then call my sister and laugh about it again.  It takes a lot to offend me.  That being said, my own bachelorette party included people that were only guests, but that's because they planned it themselves and invited me along, haha.  DH and I live OOT from the rest of our families, so our friends here planned bashes for both of us. 

wed0608

I guess I've just been needing to vent a little since the bride whose wedding I'm in this Saturday has been a bit of a bridezilla and I'm generally pretty laid back so I haven't known how to handle it. She sent me an e-mail a couple of months ago informing me that I would be planning her bachelorette party, which kind of bugged me because I live 7 hours away and don't have a job right now so it was kind of a strain to do all of the things she wanted. And she made sure I knew what kind of party she wanted, haha. Glad it's over though! And offended might not have been the right word, just annoyed and maybe a little hurt that I feel a bit taken advantage of by her. So I'm trying to be nice and accommodating and I figure I will just bite my tongue! Thanks for listening

LibertarianBride

well, christ on a cracker that WOULD offend me.i would have told the bizatch to plan her own damn party.  yikes.

MeaghanandMichael

just annoyed and maybe a little hurt that I feel a bit taken advantage of by herI don't blame you at all actually. I probably would have addressed this with her considering the circumstances you described.

LibertarianBride

when you said you personally experienced those things, i thought you meant that you were at weddings where those things happened, not that they happened to you.  haha, i don't understand bridezillas.  i kinda want to scratch their eyes out.

Duckyoflove13

My best friend just got married on Saturday. There were a few things that were eye-rollish, but the thing that bugged me the most was...The reception was supposed to go untill 9pm, the ceremony was at 4pm, ended around 4:30pm, everone was done eating around 5:30pm. After eating, dancing and such began. At 6pm, the couple's parents were going through the venue, (same space for reception and ceremony, seating was at the tables,) and started taking the center pieces and table linens, tearing down decorations and such. The guests were not made aware that the reception was actually supposed to continue until about 9, but when we began to say our goodbyes at 6:30pm they were begging us to stay and still party with them.We were happy to stay, we thought they were trying to get people to leave. If they wanted people to stay, then why did they start taking the place apart so soon? 

wed0608

Yeah, most of the examples in my original post are things that are going on with this particular bride. The one about opening gifts at the reception happened at another wedding I was in last summer. Great way to clear out a reception FAST, though! haha

JPtach

No way are you wrong to be offended, weddings can bring out the wacky in brides//bridesmaids etc. Both the fiancee and I are standing up in his friend's wedding, his friend called a couple weeks ago and asked 'Why the F hadn't he gotten his tux yet, he needs to rent it ASAP" then just last week we saw the couple at a social gathering and the bride mentioned that the groom hadn't rented his own tux yet, so I casually asked why the rude phone call to my fiancee about his tux. She sheepishly laughs and said "Well, you know, there are some people that we just can't count on and we wanted to make sure everyone had their outfits" WTF?? In the years I've known my fiancee, he's been the most reliable guy I've known. I could tell even more stories about these two.. but then this post would turn into a rant... lol.

ZRex

I definitely lol-ed at some of those! I can't believe they made people write their own addresses on the envelopes!!!! Wouldn't she already have those from their invites? People are crazy.

[Deleted User]

-Stopping all reception activities so that the couple can open their giftsThis one is my favorite. I'm going to steal the idea.

sammi1285

when my FSIL asked me to be her bridesmaid, her next sentence was telling me what date she wanted her bachelorette part (in June 2010)

JPtach

I feel compelled to share this breach of etiquette: just went to bachelorette party where when I walked into the house from being outside I apparently itched my nose or something like that because the brides' aunt asked if we were outside doing cocaine!! She informed me of this after she approached every guest at the party asking if we did cocaine. I had to spend 15 min trying to convince her of the facts 1. I have never done cocaine in my life 2. I have seasonal allergies 3. I'm a nurse and I wouldn't touch the stuff!! Then the bride did one too many shots and was puking the rest of night and her mother informed me that since the bride had taken care of me one time when I had too much booze I can stay the night and take care of her! Geez.. when I left the next morning I was wondering what I had done to wrong the entire family!! PS I also had another aunt tell me to put the bride's clothes/comforter in the dryer before I went to bed..