My fiance and I have been engaged since April... We've had 8 different wedding dates 6 different locations and My FMIL isn't having any of it. Mind you my fiance is stationed overseas and she's been married twice now... this is supposed to be our day. I'm working on his midtour schedule, not her work schedule. I don't want a summer wedding or a wedding over the holidays because of my budget, and that's what she's pushing for. She is also not paying for any of the wedding or rehearsal dinner. I want a small private wedding (50 tops ) and she's got a list of her own (pushing 200 not including my family) How do I handle a manipulative controlling FMIL without offending my Fiance?