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Etiquette for sending invite question...

Hey all, Just wanted to ask a quick "etiquette" question that I wasn't able to find in post. (Unless I missed it?) I sent out save the dates awhile back and am just about ready to send out the invites. Well today I received a post on my Facebook wall from my great-uncle telling me that he won't be able to make it due to a previous engagement. GRRRR..... not so much grrr because he's not making it but more grrr that it was posted on my wall! Oh well, guess you sign up for that stuff when you create one right? Anyhow, back to the question. Now that I know that he won't be able to make it, am I still supposed to send him an invitation out of respect? Or is the right thing to do etiquette wise? I can't imagine why he would need one, it's not as though we're super close and he would love to have it as a keepsake! What would you do or what should be done in this type of a situation? TIA!

Re: Etiquette for sending invite question...

  • Still send the invite.  Plans change,  he might be able to come after all.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • Your great uncle has facebook?I'd send it anyway. He might change his mind.
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  • Etiquette says you can still send the invitation, because, as the previous posters point out, his plans could change. But I'll say it right here: If you send an invitation anyway to a person who already told you that they can't come, it will be perceived as a total demand for a big gift to make up for the fact that they can't come.
  • Hmmm......... thanks guys. Now I'm really confussed. I should send it cause his plans might change, but then if they don't I'll seem gift grabby! UGH. I guess I'll just think about it a little more. I'll ask some family and see what their thoughts are too. Thanks again!
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