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Dilemma

Nik1202Nik1202
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So I had a few good friends picked out to be in my wedding with me. The problem is, FI is an only child and literally has no one that he considers close enough to be in the wedding, what do I do?
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  • Brie2010Brie2010 member
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    He doesn't have to have any groomsmen if he doesn't want to.  Uneven sides are perfectly fine.
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  • TurtlesAllTheWayDownTurtlesAllTheWayDown member
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    If he really, really has NO one - no friends, cousins, etc - then either put your brother on his side, or let him not have anyone.Is it that he wishes he had someone or that he doesn't want anyone? If it's the latter, I think you'll be fine having some people stand up with you, but not with him. Even sides don't matter. (I'd lean towards maybe 2 in this situation, though, rather than 5.) If it's the former situation... again, do you have a brother or something?
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  • EmmaBride2BEmmaBride2B member
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    Ever seen the movie I Love You, Man? Seriously though, he doesn't have to have anyone, or sides can be uneven.
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  • NebbNebb member
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    Does he have no one? Not even one? I think you only really need one, and thats to act as a witness. I had uneven sides, you can too!
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  • Nik1202Nik1202
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    His cousin may be out of jail by the time of the wedding (you get the point) I asked him about his Dad or an Uncle but he doesn't want to use them. So should I limit the amount of girls on my side? My son will be in the wedding but he will only be 12 at the time...I'm so confused...
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  • Nik1202Nik1202
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    Thanks for the positive feedback girls I appreciate it...I will probably just do 2 on my side and my son of course.
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  • EmmaBride2BEmmaBride2B member
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    Well, if your son is already in the wedding would your FI be ok with him standing up for him? Twelve seems plenty old enough, as long as they're both comfortable with it.
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  • bbyckesbbyckes member
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    Your son can stand up with him.  Is the jailed cousin his first choice?  Looks like you need to start embracing the idea of uneven sides.  It will be okay.
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  • ExpatPumpkinExpatPumpkin member
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    I had 2 BMs - was supposed to have 3, but one couldn't travel because of pregnancy complications - and my DH had a best man. But only the BMs walked, so it's as if he didn't have a BM at all for the ceremony. We had the BMs sit down for the ceremony... So my point is that you don't need to limit your side just because he can't fill out his, and he shouldn't fill his side with "stand ins" just to match your number.
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