Would you confront her?

dojo1

I have a close friend whom I have known for more than 10 years.  We were best friends in high school but have seen each other less and less over the years.  Despite this, I have always considered her to be a good friend and she has said the same.She was invited to both my shower and my bachelorette but never bothered to RSVP to either.  At the time I like she didn't care about me enough to even take a couple minutes to let me know she couldn't make it.  She didn't RSVP to the wedding and when I emailed her about it she told me that she and her boyfriend were going to go to go his "baseball friend's" wedding instead.  I am so hurt by this that I don't think I want to be friends anymore.  Would you say something to her or would you just let the friendship die out?

Brie2010

She's just not that into you.  Let it go.

salt78

Sounds like it's dying out. I'd keep quiet about it.

eastunder1

She is sending you a message loud and clear.  It may be painful, but listen to it.

georgia_bride09

I think the friendship has already died out.

Nebb

It would be easier to just let it die. Saying something could turn into a big fight. Easier to just let it go.

ricksang

Awww I am sorry your friendship is not strong anymore. Let it die out.

SarahSmile23

She's just not that into you. Let it go.Sadly, I agree with this. I've had this happen before and it's difficult. But trust me. If you try to force this friendship to continue, it's likely to end in a nasty argument. It happened to me and I learned my lesson.

BecW2be

You have much bigger things to worry about. Let it go. Enjoy your wedding and hate it for her that she missed out!

wed0608

I think confronting her would cause a lot of hurt feelings and anger. I would just let it go. If you drift apart without a big blow up, there is a chance that some day you guys will be able to be friends again without the baggage of having had a huge fight or hurt feelings over this. If you do confront her though, expect that to be the end of it.Sometimes friendships ebb and flow. Sometimes they just end. It's not fun either way but no need to make it any more uncomfortable than it already is.

ecsmiles

I think you know that this friendship has died out, she's made it pretty clear.  It would still bother me a lot, however, I know if I confronted her it would just end up making me even more mad/hurt.  So its probably not worth your time or energy. 

[Deleted User]

key her car. It should say "RSVP to this biitch". Or just let it go. Your level of crazy should dictate which one you choose.

dojo1

You ladies are right - the message from my former friend is loud and clear.  I will definitely be focusing my efforts and attention on the other great people in my life!

salt78

[i]I will definitely be focusing my efforts and attention on the other great people in my life![/i] That's awesome. And they will be the ones that appreciate it also!

LesPaul

Let it go.  Distance happens, and people fade away, regardless of how close you once were or how you swore to be BFFs forever.

BecW2be

Atta Girl! Hang in there. I know it's tough.

eastunder1

If you drift apart without a big blow up, there is a chance that some day you guys will be able to be friends again without the baggage of having had a huge fight or hurt feelings over this. If you do confront her though, expect that to be the end of it.Ditto this 100 percent.  Sometimes relationships just fade in and out.  It's no one's fault and no one is a bad guy for it, it just happens.  Allowing it to occur naturally without accusations leaves the door open for reconnecting at some point down the line if the situation presents itself.