Oy. Fairly mortified

marafaye

My bridal shower was Sunday, and while 99.9% of it was wonderful, and everyone I was worried about was well-behaved, I'm still hearing from multiple friends about my mom. Right before we all started eating, she raised her glass to propose a toast. It went something like this: "I'd like to propose a toast to my best friend and sister for throwing this party, and to my daughter Leigh for baking all these beautiful desserts!" I'm not Leigh. That's my sister. Who then added on "And a huge toast and congratulations to MARA who's getting MARRIED in a month!" I've never seen more eye rolls in one room, and I teach middle school!

tidetravel

I suggest seating her far away from the microphone at the reception.

shellydiane820

Ehh I've been called caitlin more times than I can count, not a big deal. *caitlin is my sister

lpstl

Am I missing something? Are you pissed she thanked people who helped throw your shower?

janedoe1113a

Yea, I'm a little confused.

cmhershey

Did you bake for your own shower? 

scoetto

That sucks! And I totally feel your pain. On Sat when we were going to get my hair done before the renewal, my mom freaked out on me and said she was tired of taking my sh!t over the past 10 years and she wasn't putting up with it anymore. What was I doing? Explaining to her about the different hotels. Oh, and I haven't lived at home since '97 and didn't go home a lot because of our strained relationship. Then my sister reminded me that my "pretty princess day" was all about my mom and not me. Thankfully my sister reminded me of that. Because I had forgotten. Maybe you have a mom like mine. Who sucks, but you love her anyway. I wish you luck, my friend.

crfische

I think she toasted to the host and the baker of the goodies, but not to the bride to be. That's lame of her.

marafaye

I'm not pissed she thanked the person who threw the shower. Or my sister. I'm pissed she didn't mention me at all... or sit near me, or really even watch me open gifts. Yep, if its not about her she doesn't care. She won't be anywhere NEAR the mic at the wedding

marafaye

I wasn't called my sister's name. I wasn't mentioned at all.

lpstl

Maybe she's just not good at toasts and got nervous? I wouldn't dwell on it.

nvdmeulen

ya that's kinda lame-azz of her.   on a slightly different note, we did a gift opening and brunch at my in-laws house the next day and my sister just sat out in the car. she didn't come in, didn't say hello, just sat in the car. the whole "event" lasted maybe an hour and a half. we told my MIL that she had already left cause I didn't want her to be upset that my sister wouldn't even come in. and she's 4 years older than me.

bbyckes

That's not cool.  I think that would hurt if it came from my mom.  Was she a little tipsy or is this typical behavior?

3plus2=5

I think I'd probably be a bit hurt as well.  Thank goodness your sister picked up the cue though.  She's a keeper!

wadingmoose

I'm not Leigh. That's my sister. Who then added on "And a huge toast and congratulations to MARA who's getting MARRIED in a month!"The SISTER had to actually acknowledge that there was a bride.  Not the mother of the bride.  It was in the first post.Mara, that sucks.

JaimeeP

Ok, so mom thanked the hostess and your sister for providing a beautiful shower (99.9% wonderful!) for her daughter. That was correct for her to thank them. And it was lovely of your sister to toast you. You could have then toasted someone, maybe your mom, FMIL, MOH or your guests. This was such a little, tiny part of your day. Truly, you are overreacting.

Pirata13

My cousin's MIL was like that at her shower. When someone attempted to get FMIL's attention, she was like "Sorry, but I have to SOCIALIZE!"  UGH.