Dear Friend - A rant

katiewhompus

Dear friend,You know I love you dearly, but you have lost your mind. I know that you want to go get drunk with your friends every weekend, but no I do not feel bad for you because you have to stay home with your baby since your dh is working 70 hours a week. You decided to go off bc and ttc when you were 19. You are a mom, you will always be a mom, you don't get to be a crazy 21 year old instead because now being a mom doesn't seem as fun as it did a 2 years ago.No I will not throw you a wedding shower next year. I already attended your first shower when you got married 2 years ago. I got you lots of presents for that and for your wedding. I don't care if it wasn't your dream wedding, you don't get two showers, and I'm not spending more money on a second wedding gift.No I will not spend my money on a house call stripper for your bachelorette party. You've been married for 2 years, you are not a bachelorette.No I will not feel bad for you that your Dh only bought you the $5k diamond necklace instead of the $10k one. He is still working on paying off your house, your engagement ring/wedding ring ($25K combined), and the daily bills that result from having a kid, 2 puppies, 3 cats, and a bird.  Whew..

scoetto

Oh my.

laurenclaire1386

Oh good lord. 

[Deleted User]

There are no words...

ExpatPumpkin

Wow! She sounds like a handful!

janedoe1113a

Oh goodness.

nda_roxybabe

Wow. T's sister felt the same way after having a baby, she constantly had their mom babysit so she could go out.

sarah0725

Friend = hot mess.Sidebar: I have definitely said "How's married life treating you?" to newly married friends. I also say "How's your wife?" every time I call my brother, and it never gets old despite the fact that he's been married for two years now. I hope katiewhompus doesn't hate me.

missy68

Go Katie!Holy crap on a cracker.

julezlee

How can you even get through a conversation with her without smacking her?

NotNumbers

I know I shouldn't say it, but I actually DO feel sorry for her DH.

Mrs_AF

Reason #2842 that I don't want to have kids until i'm 30.

scoetto

pc made me go "HA!" really loud. the end.

[Deleted User]

Me too Scoetto.

mwhitson14

Me too scoetto

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Remember the train wreck of a SAHM/SAHW thread a few days ago? THIS is the type of person who doesn't realize how good she has it. $25k engagement/wedding set?

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

So maybe tell us why you ARE friends with her, Katie. ;-)

lyndausvi

wow... she sounds like a peach. Just wondering what her DH does for a living?  A 21 year old having a $25k wedding/e-ring intrigues me. I mean if we could afford that on some rings, we could afford a nanny once in a while so I could go out.

katiewhompus

Of course I don't hate you Sarah I was mostly annoyed right after the wedding when I never got to see dh due to our schedules. People would ask and I'd say "I don't know, I'll let you know when I see my husband".She's normally not this bad, just sometimes she seems to go off the deep end. It's bad too because sometimes I get really weirded out by the age difference between her and her dh. They have a 12 years difference (and dh and I have 10), but in my mind our age difference (I'm 25 he's 35) is worlds away from her and her dh (she's 21 and he's 33).

katiewhompus

Lynd, her dh was one of my co-managers at the pet store. He makes $55k/year. I'm just hoping he has a secret nest egg somewhere or a very full savings account.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

They have a 12 years difference (and dh and I have 10), but in my mind our age difference (I'm 25 he's 35) is worlds away from her and her dh (she's 21 and he's 33).I totally agree. FI is 35 and I'm 27. When he graduated from high school I was in... fourth grade. I wouldn't have dated someone more than 2-3 years older than me when I was in high school. At that point, I was in... high school. What would we have in common? FI and I are now both adults with bills/cars/jobs, etc, so we barely even think about it.

banana468

I'm amazed that people like that are out there.And her husband hasn't passive-aggressively gone off on her??  Wow.

LindyL

Your friend sounds like a slightly younger version of my cousin... minus the married part. Instead, my cousin tries to convince every guy she dates to marry her. If she shows me one more "ring" after only a month and a half of dating I'll scream. DH can't even stay in the room now if she starts talking about that sort of stuff. He has to walk away to keep from saying something. *Sorry for the slight threadjack*