I just got engaged a week ago, and have been very happy up till this point. My parents mentioned possibly having an engagement party for us, and when I called to speak with my father, he had a completely different idea for the party than me, my fiance, or my mother did. I wanted a small, intimate, mostly-family oriented party; he wants to have this hugh blowout thing with all his friends - people that for the most part have had nothing to do with my life. I had also mentioned from the very beginning that I wanted my future in-laws invited; they live in another state and would need advanced notice so that they can travel and celebrate with us. My father did not want them to come, but they have already been told about it, I am not disinviting them. My parents were planning on paying for a large chunk of the wedding, but I think I really need to put my foot down in the beginning because I think my Dad feels that since he's paying for stuff, he had control over the whole situation and that is NOT how it's going to be. I think we will either have a small engagement party hosted by us at our house or none at all. Any advice or suggestions ladies? I have a feeling it's going to be a long year and half to our wedding at this rate!