***Mrs. C-to-Be***

ExpatPumpkin

Regarding being nervous about language barriers between the two families: Let me put you at ease I was soooo stressed out about the language issues, especially when my mom and grandma came down here (Mexico) and met his family for the first time. Most of his family members and all of his friends DO speak English, however, so that made it easier. One piece of advice: Have a sweetheart table... That way his family sits together and yours sits together. I think that a head table with people who can't easily communicate would make for a stressful night... We kept the tables separate at the rehearsal dinner and wedding, and language didn't matter at all... It still turned out to be a great party, and I can't believe I ever worried about it. Doesn't matter what language you speak on the dance floor! So if you're stressed, don't be Feel free to page me here if you have any questions about planning a dual-language wedding and reception...

Mrs.C-To-Be

I totally missed your page before!  Sorry!!That is great advice.  Our families have not met yet, and it makes me so nervous of the awkward silence when they finally do!  See, I was worried that at the reception it would be so uncomfortable with the room almost split in two, but you say it wasn't bad at all?  That makes me feel better.  I could just envision it looking like a middle school dance where all the boys and all the girls were on seperate ends of the room, haha.Speaking of music.  How did you do the music selection?  Was it a good mix of all types so that everyone got something they liked?BTW, your wedding was beautiful!!!

ExpatPumpkin

That's what I was afraid of too, but it turned out to be no problem at all... Hopefully my experience will put you at ease About music, we compromised: - American band that played jazz, oldies, etc. - Latin DJ to play during the band's breaks. - We brought in a mariachi group to play for an hour at the end of the night. - DJ played Latin music the last 30 minutes. It really turned out great, and everyone danced even though it was a small wedding (60 guests). All the Mexicans were familiar with the English-language songs, and all the Americans were happy to dance to the Spanish-language song... It turned out that we played more Spanish music than English, but we had more Mexican guests. (My family is super small, and some of my guests were Mexican, too.) Is your FI Cuban or Mexican? Or from somewhere else? Oh, and thanks

Mrs.C-To-Be

He is Mexican. The music sounds like a good!  Actually his mom would rather us have his uncle play at the reception, and now that I think about it, the idea of him playing during the main bands break might work.  We had both initially declined his uncle playing because we wanted him to be able to enjoy himself, however he claims that he would rather play than just attend as a regualr guest.  This may be a way to meet in the middle. Thanks, agian!  Knowing someone else did it, and it worked out well makes me feel much better!   I'm sure I'll be asking for more advice in the future.

BeccaC1234

Sorry to threadjack.....Mrs. C-to-Be, I saw your siggy pic and you look familiar, then I saw you're getting married in San Antonio.  Did you go to school there?

Mrs.C-To-Be

Becca - Yes, I sure did.  I went to O'Connor, in Helotes.

BeccaC1234

Ah, so did I.  Must have seen you around at some point!  I graduated in '04.  I went to Braun Station and Stevenson for elementary and middle school.

Mrs.C-To-Be

I went to the same schools, but I graduated in '03.  Ha, kind of funny.  I'm sure during all that time we talked or ran into each other at least once.