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WWYD RSVPs

Our deadline was last week. I need final counts by Wednesday.There are about 7 people who I have not heard from. I've called and emailed. What do I do? Count them in and be out a couple hundred bucks?
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Re: WWYD RSVPs

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    Depends on your venue. Can you count them out and will your venue accommodate some or all of them if they show up last minute? It's the more cost effective way for you if you can swing it.
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    If they don't call you back, just leave a message letting them know that you need to know by tomorrow and if you don't hear from them you'll have to exclude them. But you know, in a nice way.
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    The rude part of me says to contact them again and say if you don't hear from them by X, they can count themselves out. But knowing that life just doesn't work that way, make a last attempt to contact them, and ask your venue what they can do. If they will allow space/meals for a few extra guests, great. If not, you have to decide whether to gamble with the extra money, and hope they show up.
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    people suck haha. Especially because some of the people missing are friends who just got married, so I know they understand the importance of knowing the right numbers. Oh well.
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    Take your best guest about whether they will come or not. Or maybe count half of them in? I kind of think people who don't RSVP (after numerous attempts to contact them) and show up to the wedding deserve to feel embarassed when there isn't a seat for them. At that point, it is not your problem.
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    is your venue flexible at all?  we had 3 people who couldnt give us definites as they were abotu to have babies.becuase we did a buffet, our venue told us to include them in teh seating chart, but not in the count.  they didnt want us to pay for people that may or may not show.if they arent flexible, i'm inclined to not include them, since you may have several no-shows that day anyway.  we had, i think, 3 individuals and one couple that was a no show.
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    You've called and emailed, and still no answer.  You did your part.  I would assume no.  It's not that tough of a decision whether to attend or not.The people that we had to hound (numerous phone calls) finally said "SURE, we're coming"...umm...didn't show up.  If you have to hound them and hound them for an answer, I would assume them to be a no.
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