WR Post - Yup, it's tacky

TheSaltyPeanut

Going off of pinot's post about tacky weddings, what did you do or are doing that others might consider "tacky?" 1. We did a dollar dance. Against my wishes. H's grandparents along with mine would have been devestated. That's all some of my older relatives kept talking about was the excitement about said dance. H was pretty firm about it even though I really didn't want to. I should note that they are extremely common in my area. 2. We did a bouquet toss and a garter toss for basically the same reasons as above. 3. We provided beer and soda but no hard liquor. Our contract stated that the liquor had to be left out with the option for cash sales. It was fine. No one cared. 4. I used labels on my invites. They were clear labels in a nice script font. They looked great. It was fine.

TheSaltyPeanut

That's supposed to say "poll!" oops!

ac_in_dc

See I was going to post below. Dollar dances are definitely NMS and I think they're kind of kitschy, but whatever, they are very traditional in some places and not really very tacky...I think they're kind of cute and old fashioned.

pinkpinot

I'm not married yet so I can't answer! Hahaha

[Deleted User]

We did a dollar dance even though I was iffy on the idea.  They are common around my area and we had to keep the dance going for quite a few more songs because people were still lining up and wanted to participate.

raynes

Nebb will hate me for this, but we had a Stag and Doe/Jack and Jill.  It's the norm for our area/circle, and it was a really fun night.

Kati0105

My MOH really wants me to do a bouquet toss even though they generally make me cringe.  We haven't decided for sure on our bar package yet, so there's a small chance we may have a split bar (cash for hard alcohol, open for beer and wine).  My BMs are all wearing the exact same dress, which I know some people view as tacky.

TheSaltyPeanut

pinot, OP clarifies "or are you doing" ... you're not off the hook

cengle

I'm doing the stupid bouquet/garter toss.  It seems like everyone but me wants them, so I'm giving in, b/c it's more important to them than it is to me. I'm sure there are other things, but I can't think of any off the top of my head.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I'm not hand writing my envelopes, nor do I want to pay a calligrapher. I'll probably print directly on them. Oh well.

Nebb

Raynes!!! *shun*

Brie2010

We're using our married monogram on the invitations. We're closing the bar during dinner.

pinkpinot

Ah I see.  Well I am not far along in planning so I'm not sure but I have a feeling it will border on the tackiest thing ever - DW with AHR. 

Tequint

We plan on doing the dollar dance. I have never been to a wedding in my area that didn't have one. I never thought of it as being tacky. We will also do the bouquet toss and garter toss, both also very  normal in my area.

ac_in_dc

Hmm...well I did register and have a "big" traditional wedding even though it was my second.

Nebb

Im totally kidding btw. I have had friends do it, and one of my good friends is planning one for herself now. I just refuse to go to them.

tidetravel

We had wedding wands.  Surprisingly, several of my friends/family have them displayed in their houses still (usually stuck in a vase with flowers or next to a picture)  And I got lots of compliments on them, so :P

opalsky007

We're also doing the bouquet and garter toss.I asked a couple of my BMs for their addresses on facebook. Horrors. I could play phone tag for days, or just ask. So I asked.My worst offense: having a B list. Yeah, I'm mad at myself about it. Mostly, I'm mad at FILs about it. They decided after we picked our venue that they needed to invite every surviving family member that they even infrequently speak to. "Our family only sees each other at weddings or funerals. This is a wedding. People would be upset if they weren't invited."Our A list is now 82 family members, 10 wedding party+dates, the minister's family, the photographer, and 2 friends. That's it, our remaining friends got B-listed. Yes, I should have put my foot down. Now I'm stuck with it.

TiDa2009

We're having a cash (toonie) bar and will probably do a bouquet toss (not so much tacky as awkward). We're also doing a gift opening the next day.  I didn't realize this was something people didn't do until the TK.  I think my family would be very disappointed if we skipped it, so, although I think they're boring as hell, we're doing one combined with a brunch.

MissLeahM

1. Cash bar (OMG THE ENTIRE WEDDING IS GOING TO BLOW UP IN FLAMES!!!!! AHH)2. Reception invitations (not myself but the FMIL, I say whatever)3. I'm not paying someone to write people's names out, my printer works just fine.4. My mom is pushing for a dollar dance but Im hoping it doesn't happen.5. Probably will be doing a garter/bouquet toss, FI really wants one.

Nebb

We had a "private" ceremoney, partly because I hate being a spectacle and partly to save money. I asked my mom specifically if she would help pay for the wedding (it had been loosely discussed before) closed the bar during dinner, had a semi cash bar (only provided wine, non alcoholic and tea/coffee)

missy68

I guess some folks would say my whole wedding was tacky, since it was in Las Vegas... We had a cake and punch reception, but took all attendees to dinner afterwards.   The first time I got married, I had the bouquet and garter toss, folks had to wait at the reception place for us to arrive and we had a dry reception.  There was live music, though. 

fangsiting

Apparently having color in your dress is tacky, but my dress is ordered & I love it anyway. [img]http://snipurl.com/t1kcy[/img]

TiDa2009

I should note that along with my cash bar, wine and all non-alcoholic drinks are free.  Not that that excuses the cash part, but, ya know. We're also having a private/immediate family only ceremony with a large reception afterwards.  I don't see it as tacky, but I know some people do.

lpstl

We asked his parents and my grandparents for money. That's pretty typical in our families for weddings. I expected my sister (MOH) to do more than put on a dress and show up.

fangsiting

Holy crap that picture is huge.  Sorry. 

kkchisholm

Cash bar- I know I am awful. But really I have never been to an open bar wedding before! And it's really not even an option for us. we aren't drinkers either. We are supplying champagne for everyone though. does that count for something?

jforeman5

We included registry info in the invitations (gasp!) I know this is tacky. All DH's family does this and so does mine, so I don't think we offended anybody, still kinda tacky though :/Family and friends helped set up and take down our minimal decorations for the reception. This is another thing that is common in our families, and they offered.

[Deleted User]

My mom asked my dad to split the cost of our wedding.

ThePinkSuperhero

Fake flowers.  I even think they're tacky (in theory; the ones I got are lovely), but I'm too cheap to care.

raynes

Well Nebb, I'm glad we can still be internet friends.At least we had a fully open bar at the reception...