Enable my tackiness

agk0125

Ok we we're emailing our STDs. I know it's tacky but we have to get those b!tches out and I procrastinated too long to do it the traditional way. Feel free to yell at me, but it probably isn't going to change anything.Now for the question:Is there any reason why I can't put in the body of the email "please reply with your address so we can mail your formal invitation when the time comes" or something to that tune? That way it's like two birds with one stone, right?I'm seeking either A) validation or reasons that I shouldn't ask for addresses in the STD email.If anyone is interested the STD is in my bio. I think it came out quite cute.

TiDa2009

I would do it, but I know that my family and friends would be ok with that.  I emailed or FBed them for their addresses.

pumpkinpumpkin

You know...you don't *have* to do STDs, right? I'd send no stds before I'd email them.

Leah&Christian09

I would write a separate email to each individual person asking for their address. Otherwise, you are going to get 12 people that don't understand the difference between reply and reply all clogging up the mailbox of the rest of your people, followed by 5 people asking them not to hit reply all.

agk0125

Exactly. I'm going to be emailing them anyway, so why not just include it with the STD.So that's one vote for my logic. That's good.

Koopa17

Otherwise, you are going to get 12 people that don't understand the difference between reply and reply all clogging up the mailbox of the rest of your people, followed by 5 people asking them not to hit reply all.If you BCC everyone and someone replies to all, I think it just goes to the original sender? Not sure, but it's a thought.

agk0125

You know...you don't *have* to do STDs, right? I'd send no stds before I'd email them. We're doing a weekday pseudo destination wedding so we do kinda need them, especially for certain friends and family who need the notice.

NotNumbers

I'd personally send separate, individual emails closer to the time asking for addresses.  That also covers you if people move in the meantime.

NotNumbers

I also emailed my STDs, by the way.  Oh, the horror, the tackiness )  Much easier and greener.  Plus, in my experience, people are less likely to lose an email than a hard copy.

NotNumbers

^to clarify, I'm talking generally.  I've never sent stds before.

TiDa2009

I should add that I sent everyone their own personalized email to avoid the "reply all" mess.  I also didn't email anyone until 3 months out so that everything was current. Could you send your STDs now and do the address email later on?

agk0125

If you BCC everyone and someone replies to all, I think it just goes to the original sender? Not sure, but it's a thought.I also believe this to be true. It's basically a non issue though because I'll probably send each individually. I want to be able to include who it's for in the body of the email for my friends with live in SOs to make it clear that the SO is invited.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I might opt to send a personal email to each person if it's a small wedding. And then ask for addresses of the people you need that way.At the very least, I'd say something like "Please make sure agk and whr have your current mailing address" or something.And definitely BCC everyone!

agk0125

I'd personally send separate, individual emails closer to the time asking for addresses. That also covers you if people move in the meantime.I thought of this since my friends move a lot (oh NYC apartment living..). I figured when the time came I could send them an email saying "is this still your address."

fangsiting

Why is sending a STD email tacky?  They aren't required, so I don't see the harm.  It's environmentally friendly.  Anyway, we emailed our STDs & asked for addresses.  Only a few people actually provided their addresses, so it really isn't killing two birds with one stone--more like killing one & injuring the other (unless you have more responsive guests than we do). 

agk0125

Plus, in my experience, people are less likely to lose an email than a hard copy. This was also part of the logic. I know my friends: they will get a piece of mail and lose it. If I email it they are 100% more likely to put it in their calendar.I see I'm getting a lot of "separate email" votes. I will take this into consideration. I still also need to run the idea by FI.

agk0125

Fang I will probably get a very similar response rate.emailing STDs is on the list of P&E tacky things to do. I personally think it's only a minor offense though.

fangsiting

Plus, in my experience, people are less likely to lose an email than a hard copy.Really?  If I got an email STD, I would immediately put the date on google calendars.  I rarely delete a personal email, so it would be extremely easy to find it again if I wanted a link to the wedding website or info on the wedding (because 9 times out of 10 I will lose the paper invitation).  If I got a paper STD, I would immediately lose it and be surprised 5 months later that x friend is getting married. 

agk0125

fang you just agreed with your italics

fangsiting

haha.  oops, I totally read that wrong.  I am an idiot.