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Two aisles at our church...

Hello All!Just wanted to pick your minds about the church where we are having our wedding. It has two aisles that are rather short, which is not ideal, but it's the only church big enough to accomodate our guests that is near our reception venue. Any ideas as to how we can use this to our advantage or how to make the best of it? Thanks so much!

Re: Two aisles at our church...

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    Have you DD'd today? I remember your name from today sometime, but the only post it shows you making is this one.
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    Ditto PP - that's what I was gonna say.
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    Georgia, she's the one who asked about her FMIL's dress.  And yes, it's gone.  Shocking.

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    You could do the processional on one aisle and the recessional on the other aisle.
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    The ones I've seen like this, they bride and BMs did the processional down the left-center aisle, as if it were a middle aisle. Then after the ceremony, the did the recessional up the right-center aisle. Family sat in the middle section, friends of bride sat on the left, and friends of groom sat on the right.
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    The church has 3 sections of pews and the aisles are equally off center-if that makes sense? lol.
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    People should refuse to help you on principle.  DD'ing is a cardinal sin. 
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    Okay, well that's all the info I need to be of no help whatsoever.
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    I'm not going to bother answering, since you obviously place little value in my advice.
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    Not sure what DD'ing is? And I'm sorry to have upset anyone. I didn't give all the details and apparently should have. I wasn't trying to cause any trouble, just was venting as this is one of several other things that have happened, and as ridiculous as it seems, it was just the thing that caused me to snap a little. Yes, I deleted it, because I understand that it's something I shouldn't be so upset about, but it was just in light of several other things and I shouldn't have posted without giving all the background info.
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    For future reference, we don't appreciate you deleting threads because we all take time to respond and when you delete, it suggests that you didn't get the validation you were seeking and thus, we won't want to help you again.
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    I think its fine if your FMIL wears black to your wedding.
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    Also, someone else might come along with the same question (you weren't venting, FYI, you asked several questions.  We were answering them), and not be able to get the help that we gave.  No one was particularly mean to you.  I think the worst thing that was said "Get over it."  We get asked a lot of the same questions over and over, and now someone might come ask that, where they really wouldnt' have needed to if you had just left your post up.

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    I would send your BMs down one aisle, but make sure your FMIL goes down the other.You know, so no one confuses her with a bridesmaid.
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    My sincere apologies. I hadn't considered that, and it makes perfect sense. That was my first post and didn't consider that.
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    If you saw you were over reacting, you should have made a comment in the thread to that effect. Deleting a post makes it look like you're a small child who is taking all their toys and going home because some one upset her and she doesn't want to play anymore.
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    OK - apology accepted.  One PP mentioned that having the wedding party walk up one aisle and down the other.  I like that idea.
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    Good, now don't do it again ;)I agree, you can walk in one aisle and out the other.  Or if you don't want BM and GM to walk in together, the guys could walk in one side and the women the other. 

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    Now that this is all sorted out.Our church has two aisles. We are having the ladies walk up the left aisle (as you're facing the altar) and the gentlemen walk up the right. They will meet in the middle (ours has a middle) and then walk up to the alter and go to their respective sides.Also our coordinator at the church advised us that the processional I will walk in on the left and then for the recessional me and my then H will walk out to the right (which will be our left).Hope that makes sense.
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    The church my brother was married in was the same way. To make it even more difficult the entrance to the church was on the same side as the altar. One of the aisles had a stair way to the basement at the back so they used that one for the processional. It was neat because it looked like the wedding party came out of nowhere. I'm sure it will be fine if you just pick one aisle, or like PPs said do the processional down one and recessional down the other.
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    My childhood church was like this.  Superstition is/was that the bride should enter and exit the church for the ceremony the same way, so most people just ignored one of the aisles. However, I like the idea of the bridesmaids coming up one and GM coming up the other.
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    My cousin's wedding was in a church with 2 aisles. I didn't like it. She walked down, and back up, on the same side...which couldn't have been any firther away from me. I barely got to see her. I say walk down one side, go back up on the other side so everyone can see. Other than that, ehh...
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    Thanks everyone! Definitely liking the using both aisles thing. I'm also trying to figure out a song that sort of builds that I could use for everyone to walk down to and that I could also walk down to. I'm afraid of having bits and pieces of music if I use different songs since the aisle isn't really long and it won't take people long to walk down.
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