Invitation situation

angel2210

A couple of years ago my grandpa and I had a falling out and have not spoken since. I have no interest or intentions of inviting him to the wedding. When I was putting together my guest list I did add his brothers and sister and parents. But the more I think about it he only has one brother I'm close with, the rest I couldn't tell you the last time I saw them nor do I really care much for them. My family wasn't invited to any of their children's weddings. Basically, my question is this: if I invite the uncle that I'm close with and my great-grandparents, am I obligated to invite the rest? I doubt they'd show anyway, but regardless...

oxerny

I have a similar problem.  Some will say you aren't required to invite anyone. Some will say family should always be invited.  I say, take stock of what the damage will be if you do exactly what you want and decide if its worth it.  If it's not, bend till it is.   I am inviting one Aunt/Uncle/Cousins out of 5 sets.  The rest will have to deal with it.  I want a small ceremony and I am really close to them.  Im ready for the backlash.

Koopa17

No, not at all.  Invite who you are comfortable with and who you want at the wedding.  IMO, if you haven't remained in touch over the years then there is no reason for them to be invited. 

ring_pop

It really depends on your family dynamic. I can tell you that in OUR families, I was absolutely obligated to invite my grandmother (our only living grandparent), all of our parents' siblings and all of our first cousins. We're just all that close. Beyond that circle though, we only invited those with whom we were close, so H invited some of his second cousins that he grew up with. Lots of people don't consider aunts, uncles, and cousins to be within the "circle of obligation" though. If your family wasn't invited to any of their family weddings, I'd say you're probably not obligated to invite them.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

If the only person who will care is your grandfather, then no. If your parents or great-grandparents or other family will be offended by him not being there, you might want to think about it.

Calypso1977

i dont have a relationship with my grandparents.  they were not invited.  out of their five children, on of them was invited (my aunt) as was her daughter, my cousin.  at this point, i think the others would have been surprised to be invited since we have no relationship.  i also was not invited to the other weddings.invite who you are close to and who is a part of your life.

angel2210

Thank you all for your responses. That's kind of what I was thinking but wanted to be sure it wouldn't be in poor etiquette.