alone after the wedding

blueberries8

I was married 2.5 weeks ago and my H has been on reserve army duty since this past Sunday (we live in Israel where army service is basically mandatory for all men). This is pretty and hard and super lonely! I never thought of myself as clingy and I was super independent before he was in my life, but being alone in our new home which isn't even fully unpacked/with stuff left to assemble sucks as does not always knowing he is totally safe. Anyone else have experience being apart from their H right after getting married?

AmoroAgain

My H is flying back to Italy next week.  We'll be apart for about a month before I can get over there too.  I just do enough to keep busy but don't try to fight all the loneliness when you do feel bad.

danieliza1127

Not right after getting married, but a couple of years ago literally the day after I moved in with my H he broke both of his knees and was in the hospital and rehab place for about a month.  It was the saddest, strangest, most unsettled feeling being in his apartment with his things and my things in boxes and him not there.  Sleeping in his bed alone every night without him.  It was weird.  I hope your H is safe!  Enjoy your time unpacking and settling into your home.  Stay positive!

nuremenosh

I haven't but I will. My fiance travels frequently for work and will be travelling the week after we get back from our honeymoon. He's away all next week as well so I'm going stay at our house to do a test run of being at the house myself.

beatlesgirl25

I'm sorry to hear that about your H. When will he be more available to spend some newlywed time with you?I think I kinda know what you're feeling... H and I didn't rush off to a honeymoon, and my parents and sister (and her husband and baby) ended up staying over at our place for two more days after the wedding, at which point H had to get back to work. Work has been busier than usual for him, and he just started grad school this fall, so he has been working late and overtime (even weekends) for much of our first month of marriage. It can feel pretty distancing, but I know he's there and we will have some quality time soon. Good luck to you.

BecW2be

I just got married Saturday, and we didn't get a honeymoon, nor do we live together. I'm the most independent girl you'll meet, but I'm the lonliest person on earth this week without him. I have to wait until June of next year to move my girls and myself to his house, and I hate it. HATE IT!

janedoe1113a

We're not married yet, but my FI often leaves for military duty.  He's actually leaving for 3 weeks right before the wedding.It does suck and it gets lonely.  My dog is the greatest thing for me though because I'm never actually alone and it makes me feel so much better.You need to find a hobby or something to keep you occupied.  Unpack and try to assemble the stuff yourself.  That will definitely keep you busy and you'll have a great surprise for him when he comes home.

blueberries8

Amoro- Is he in Italy a lot? I know I am pretty busy, but the hours alone at night seem to last forever. You are right about not trying to fight the loneliness all the time.Danieliza - That sounds really awful. And yes, sleeping alone in a bed that is ours is hard.Nuremenosh - Good luck with your test run! It's a good idea.beatlesgirl - We're going to Toronto together in a week for 10 days (though I am leaving a few days after him) and then once we get back to Israel he has another few days of duty and then we're done with be apart (for now!). I hope we both get some much deserved qt with our H's soon.Bec - I salute you- that's super tough! I hope the time passes as quickly as possible for you.Navybaby - My cat does keep me company. I should give her some credit. And yes, I should definitely be unpacking and setting up as much as possible. I had a big burst of energy and got a lot done right after he left. Now I've just totally lost my motivation because I am feeling down. Usually I am super high energy.Thanks for the advice, guys!

babbles270

My FI had to move 8 hours away from me for his job.  I'll be moving after we sell the house, but that'll be well after the wedding the way things are going.I get really lonely, but I try to rely on family and friends.  I feel for you - it's difficult.

BritandTyson

I'm getting married in about a month and my FI has been away since the begining of September working 2 provinces away. He won't be home until December 1st. (only 11 days before the wedding) It's not same as you, but it will be soon, he'll have to go back to work right after the honeymoon, probably til about January. He probably won't even be home Christmas. I hate it so much! We have a huge house together and I get so lonely. It's especially weird to do all of this wedding planning without him here at all. And to think about being newlyweds and not being together is super upsetting too. I actually put up our christmas tree the other night just to make it brighter and happier in our big living room! (lol) I try to keep busy with my family and friends, but its definitely hard!