If you could...

tlv204

change one thing about yourself that is NOT a physical characteristic, what would it be? change one thing about your DH/FI, what would it be? If you're answer is "nothing," don't bother answering. You're no fun. This is a poll for people who realize no one is perfect.

Bippy

I trip over my words, not because I'm nervous or I have a stutter. I just... dunno. Get excited? It's very obnoxious. Also, for all of my years on the speech team and coaching speech team, I always have a hard time looking people in the eyes or not gesticulating wildly.For him to take more pride in his appearance and living space. Trim your beard, man!

tlv204

me: I wish I had a better speech filter. Overall I like how verbal of a person I am, but every now and then I catch myself repeating stories/jokes so much I annoy myself. I'm starting to think I really do just like to hear myself speak. I am generally not a fan of silence. I respect it and I know lots of people love it, but I get twitchy and need to turn on music or something. DH: I wish he was just a teensy more outgoing.  I love who he is and would never want to change his entire personality, it's just irksome when I have to make every phone call, invite everyone to go out with us, make all of the appointments, etc. Ok not all of them, but since I'm such a verbal person sometimes I get frustrated since DH is not at all and I have trouble understanding why he doesn't like to be as social as I do.

panda&squishy

I would like to worry less and to have less anxiety as a result. I think FI could worry a bit more actually. But maybe that stems from my over-worrying.

Bippy

Ooo, TLV, me too on all counts. Except my verbal filter is cussing. Like, whoa.

tlv204

For him to take more pride in his appearance and living space. Trim your beard, man!Ditto this, definitely. I have to remind the guy to even wash his face, and I notice holes in his boxers/pants/shirts before he does. He hasn't ever bought clothes for himself as far as I know. It went straight from his mother to me. I'm convinced that even if he had lived on his own for years before meeting me, he still would not have bought any new clothes.

tlv204

Oh and ditto to Panda too, definitely! He does not ever worry about anything EVER.  Which is why we are now moving into our house without anything actually packed because we had "plenty of time". Which = piles of crap moved from one place to another.

Koopa17

I wish I was better in the spotlight.  I HATE public speaking with a passion.  In middle school I literally stood at the front of the room crying and trembling I was so scared.  And yet as long as I'm not talking in front of a group I'm just fine socially.  I also wish I wasn't absolutely terrified of needles and anything medical related.I also wish that my fi cared more about certain things...like his credit.  We just bought a house using only my credit b/c his sucks, and he barely does a damn thing about it. 

RachNRich

1. my awful trouble with procrastination. 2. his necessity to always be right.

panda&squishy

Ditto Bippy on pride in living space. If I don't pick up after him, it just doesn't get done. Why is he okay with wading through a year's worth of New York Times and Taco Bell cups on the bedroom floor!? Why doesn't this phase him!? *sigh*

louisvillebride21

his necessity to always be right.THIS. Damnit, it bothers me sooo bad. I often just give in and say 'you're right, I'm wrong, yet again'. If he's being playful, he's says, 'you know it'. But if it's really bothering me, he'll try to rationalize out why he's right but sometimes he will actually give in and stop arguing. But I would also change that about me. I'm not a very good debater.

RachNRich

tlv--I seriously can't win an argument. not that it's about winning--but still. STILL>

RachNRich

tlv=lvd I'm tired. It happens.

louisvillebride21

LVD? Really? Go to bed. Lol. He's admitted that he debates just to win, even when he knows I'm wrong. That really, really bothers me. Just sometimes I would like to be right. Is that really too much to ask?

mocha beans

1. My mental endurance.  I wish I was better at sticking through learning complicated things, rather than getting frustrated when I hit a roadblock and quitting.  Then maybe I would have actually gone somewhere career-wise with my interest in cosmology.2. I wish he would be more socially outgoing.  He's great with people he knows, but isn't much into getting to know new people.  Which has left us with not making many new friends where we live now, and driving to our friends an hour and a half away to hang out.  I've tried to get him to be more up for meeting new people, but his interest is only so much.

amalama

Me-Pretty similar to yours TLV, I talk a lot. I feel like I totally dominate a lot of conversations and it probably annoys some people, but I don't like awkward silences, so I tend to just fill them myself! Also, my clutter. I am really picky about some cleaning related things (I can't stand dishes in the sink) but lately I feel like we just have piles of crap everywhere!BF-Lately I wish he was more social. He works a ton and on his days off always says he just wants to hang out with me and our daughter, and I have to always make the plans if we wanna go out. But then I feel like we are always with my friends and he has no friends.

NuggetBrain

Me - my selfishness. I have a serious problem with not getting my way and being selfish sometimes. And I know it, and I try really hard not to do that but I still do. Him - Noodle can be a hypocrite (like bitching about me leaving dishese out and then not putting away his bowl).

anna.oskar

Me: I wish I wouldn't get upset about stupid things and blush.  My cheeks gey all red when I'm embarassed and I feel embarassed way more than is reasonable. FI: I'd make him a bit more adventurous.  He doesn't have to skydive but I'd love a rock climbing buddy

SunkissedBrunette25

Me: I wish I was more patient with people and that I could gain control of my irritability level.Him: He thinks he knows everything about everything. Sometimes it's cute and sometimes it's annoying. Also, he thinks he is always right. This creates a problem when we don't agree because I am always right.

blueberries8

me: work on my anxiety, which causes me to prorastinate and be less productive and also to not take advantage of every opportunity out of fearhim: less of the fly by the seat of his pants "everything will be ok attitude", stop sometimes and do things in a more deliberate and planned manner...wow these fit gender stereotypes:)

brittjoy84

One thing about me: I would like to be a little bit less judgmental.FI: He would do a lot better with less anxiety.

Calypso1977

i wish i could be more carefree and optimistic.

BecW2be

Before Sat. I would have said I want to be less controlling, but after the mishaps at the wedding that I didn't control, I'm taking that back. The world needs me to be controlling. It's how shitgets done. I'd like to change the fact that I'm deaf in one ear. I constantly say "I'm sorry?" and people have to repeat things, especially in loud environments. I hate that. I'd like for DH (almost typed FI again!) to be more organized and better able to let go of items. I'm going to purge the hell out of his place in a few weeks, and I dread it.