Someone Else Wearing a Veil To the Wedding?!?

BiancaLab

I just recently found out that my fiancé's aunt wants to wear a mantilla veil to our wedding (she also suggested I use her two granddaughters I have NEVER met as my bridesmaids). She's from Spain, but from what I've seen this isn't a Spanish tradition unless you're the bride. What do you guys think? I'm trying not to freak out, but so far that's not working...

klovesd

Is it a Catholic ceremony/mass? Then yes, it is traditional to wear a mantilla on ones head.

BiancaLab

It is Catholic, but from what I've been told since Vatican II it's not normal...

BiancaLab

Thank you for responding.

carrieoz_76

Wikipedia says: [quote]In the Roman Catholic Church, it was customary in most places before the 1960s for women to wear a headcovering in the form of a scarf, cap, veil or hat when entering a church. The practice now continues where it is seen as a matter of etiquette, courtesy, tradition or fashionable elegance rather than strictly of religion. Traditionalist Catholics also maintain the practice.[/quote] I don't know. Is it gonna be white? Either way there's not much you can do about it without making a big stink. But if it's not white, it especially doesn't make a difference, I'd think. Unless his aunt is Penelope Cruz. Then you're screwed.

klovesd

There a few older women at my church who wear small mantillas over their heads every Sunday. Even if she does wear one, it's not going to compare to your big white wedding dress and long tulle veil. You'll be fine, I promise!

BiancaLab

Thanks girls! I think I'm just freaking out after her wanting me to use her granddaughters, and then this mantilla thing- I 'm not sure on the color but I know she was talking about wearing some elegant gown too. Part of me thinks if she does wear it people will just be like, "Ooohhh it's the crazy aunt from Spain..." and leave it at that.

ocprincess

I wear a chapel veil if I am in a Catholic church.  Always.  Without fail.Most women at much church do this, as well, so I wouldn't say it's "not normal."  I'd say "not typical."I also attend Latin Mass weekly, though.  The veiling rule was never removed, only ignored.For FI's cousin's wedding, though, I think I'm going to wear some kind of a scarf type head covering, or else a cute hat (but not one that blocks view) because the rule is actually headcovering, not veil.

jamm2019

Depending on how old his aunt is and how religious she is this is probably a tradition for her.  I wouldn't worry about her stealing your thunder.  You do not have to use her grand daughters in your ceremony.  You don't even know them...

bel138

She's probably just old school. We're very lax in the US about what flies in a Catholic church. When I was in Italy, they would refuse to admit you without your shoulders and knees covered.

Calypso1977

ditto others, if its catholic, veils are often worn, particularly  by old school catholics or catholics who attend the latin.

ring_pop

I went to a Catholic wedding recently that had a Latin mass, and everyone either brought their own veil or was given one at the door. It's actually just a hankerchief-size piece of lace sort of draped over the woman's head or pinned. It won't come anywhere close to looking like a bridal veil, don't worry.

alisonz

Part of me thinks if she does wear it people will just be like, "Ooohhh it's the crazy aunt from Spain..." and leave it at that.that's exactly what I was going to say