S/O Recycled E-ring -- Broken Engagement Poll

nda_roxybabe

1 - How many times have you been engaged? Just once2 - How did each of those end? Breakup, Marriage, Marriage then Divorce, currently Engaged, other? We stayed together and now we're just dating..3 - How old were you for each engagement? We were 204 - For any breakups or divorces, what did you do with the ring(s)? We still have it. I'm not sure what he plans to do with it...5 - What about your FI? He is my boyfriend

squirrly

roxy, your puppy is super cute!  I didn't realize you all had decided to step back to dating. 

nda_roxybabe

Thank you! Yea, about a year and a half ago we decided we were too young and not ready so we put things on hold. It was the best decision we could have made

shelliemarie

1 - How many times have you been engaged? 4, including this one 2 - How did each of those end? Breakup, Marriage, Marriage then Divorce, currently Engaged, other All breakups except current fiance 3 - How old were you for each engagement? 22, 25, 28 and 34 4 - For any breakups or divorces, what did you do with the ring(s)? Gave them back 5 - What about your FI? I am his only fiancee and he's never been married

janedoe1113a

1 - How many times have you been engaged?: Just this once, but I was semi-engaged to my high school sweetheart at one point.  I had a promise ring and we were planning our wedding, but he never officially proposed.2 - How did each of those end? Breakup, Marriage, Marriage then Divorce, currently Engaged, other: Break-up for the first one and I'm currently engaged to my second one.3 - How old were you for each engagement?: I was 18 for the semi-engagement and my FI proposed when I was 22.4 - For any breakups or divorces, what did you do with the ring(s)?: I'm actually about to give my mom my promise ring because she's never had a diamond ring.5 - What about your FI?: He's never been engaged.

On_Cloud_Nine

1. Been engaged twice. 2. The first one ended in a break up after 3 weeks (his decision) and now I'm happily engaged and getting married in 6 months! Sometimes, I really don't even count the first one. It was so short and not at all right.3. 20 for the first, and 22 for this one. 4. My ex gave me a ring, then took it back to get a better one because HE wasn't happy with the one he got me, and then broke up with me 3 weeks later. We were in a LDR. I have no idea what he's done with the ring. I still have the "promise ring" he gave me. I should sell it or something. 5. I'm his first and only!

saschaduran

Fisch....he needs to go swim with the fishes. And so does she. I'm sorry:( 1. My first engagement, I was 35 when we got engaged. 5. My H was engaged once for a day to his ex because she said it was the only way she would get back together. Then he caught her at his guy friends house the next day and took it back. I can't remember if it was before or after she married his friend for a couple weeks then got it annulled. Yeah...I am so much better than she was.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

This is a first engagement for both of us. We're 27 and 35.One of my good friends was engaged at 19 to her boyfriend of 3 years, broke up a year later, and now her ex is married to someone else. I also have a friend who was married at 17 and divorced five years later. Don't know what happened to their rings. My mom claims to not know where here ring is from her first marriage. It was a marquis solitaire in white gold. It was actually pretty nice. She had a LOT of say in the ring. My dad never would have picked something that good on his own.

phoeny_moonstar

1.) I have been engaged twice. 2.) 1st one ended in breakup, second one in marriage 3.) 1st engagement I was 20? Second I was 23 4.) Gave him back the ring. 5.) Was only engaged once- to me.

Ciaram22

1 - How many times have you been engaged? Once2 - How did each of those end? Breakup, Marriage, Marriage then Divorce, currently Engaged, other never had one break up3 - How old were you for each engagement? I was 22 when I got engaged.4 - For any breakups or divorces, what did you do with the ring(s)? n/a5 - What about your FI? FI bought a ring for his girlfriend when he was 21 and was going to propose. She then told him that she never saw being married to him. He then told her he had bought her a ring and she tried to change her mind but he wouldn't have her back.

BubbleJ

So, the e-ring post got me thinking. There are several of us on here that have commented on previous engagements that did NOT end in marriage. 1 - How many times have you been engaged? Once, to FI2 - How did each of those end? Breakup, Marriage, Marriage then Divorce, currently Engaged, other Engaged now3 - How old were you for each engagement?I was 20 when we got engaged, he was 214 - For any breakups or divorces, what did you do with the ring(s)?N/A5 - What about your FI?First engagementHowever my mother was engaged 3 times before she was 18 and broke off an engagement to be with my dad. She kept one ring that I know of (my sister has it and wears it, which I think is odd). Another one she threw at his head after he came to get it from her after she broke it off for my dad.

thesuninherhead

I'm with sucrets that this is our first engagement/marriage, and I should add that engagement/marriage isn't so common at young ages here as it is in the US. That said, I was in a long-term relationship previously (5 years) and we lived together, so it was similar, and I was very, very grateful to not have rushed into marriage.

thesuninherhead

and oh, I was 25 when I got engaged to FI. I was in the previously mentioned relationship from the ages of 17-22 and there was lots of discussion about marriage, but ultimately we grew apart and felt we worked better as friends. When young girls come on here talking about marrying their high school sweethearts, I can't help but wish they'd wait until after university, as so much changes when you go into your career, not to mention begin to cement your personality after all of the 'finding yourself' that tends to happen in your early 20's.

danieliza1127

I can't help but wish they'd wait until after university, as so much changes when you go into your career, not to mention begin to cement your personality after all of the 'finding yourself' that tends to happen in your early 20's.Completely agree with that statement.  I know a lot of people who married their high school sweethearts and ended up divorced or really unhappy once they grew up.

hccpsu

1.  Officially engaged, once.  Talked about it with two others. 2.  We got married 10/10/09. 3.  For the official one, 44. 4.  No rings from any relationship but the current. 5.  This is DH's second marriage; he's a widower.  He took his first wife's engagement ring and had the stone re-set into a necklace for me as a wedding present (he still has their bands and possibly her e-ring setting--I'm not sure about that).  

LarissaAnn

1. Once 2. Married 3. 2 days before I turned 38 4. N/A 5. This is also his first engagement, but he did propose in his early 20s to a girlfriend. She knew they were too young and refused. They broke up after that, but they're still friends, and she was actually one of the readers at our wedding. I think he left the ring with her, but I can't remember, even though he told me. I think he left it with her because I'm pretty sure I told him he'd been entitled to get the ring back and he said he didn't want it.

missamory

1 - How many times have you been engaged?Twice2 - How did each of those end? Breakup, Marriage, Marriage then Divorce, currently Engaged, other: break up, 2 months later and then married3 - How old were you for each engagement?24 and 29 4 - For any breakups or divorces, what did you do with the ring(s)? i gave the ring back5 - What about your FI? this is his first engagement and marriage

ac_in_dc

1,2. This is my second marriage, I'm divorced. I've been engaged twice.3. 23 for the first, 36 for this one.4. I still have it. It's a beautiful diamond, and I can't get a lot of $$ for it on the secondary market. I have a nephew who is 14 who was very close to my ex-husband (my ex wasn't a bad person). I think I will offer him the diamond when he's old enough to get married.5. This is DH's first engagement or marriage.

stoutcrowley

1 - How many times have you been engaged? Twice2 - How did each of those end? Breakup, Marriage, Marriage then Divorce, currently Engaged, other- First one ended very badly in a breakup.  Second one led to marriage!!!3 - How old were you for each engagement?  I was 24 for the first and 31 with the second.4 - For any breakups or divorces, what did you do with the ring(s)?  I left the ring with ex-fiance.  This engagement ring is apart of my wedding ring.5 - What about your FI? I have no idea what happened to my ex. As for this time around, he is now my delightful husband:)

jfgrad06

1 - Once2 - We're married3 - I was 19. He was 20.4 - N/A - I don't know if I would want the ring, but even if I did, legally you HAVE to give it back if he wants it. Whether you do it on your own accord, or get taken to court for it, it's legally not yours to keep (or at least that's my understanding)5 - Engaged, and married only once, to me

katiefair

1. Engaged twice (including current)2. 1st engagement: Broke up, but we hadn't started planning the wedding yet. 3. Ist engagement: 21; 2nd engagement: 314. My first engagment ring was a small channel band. So I really couldn't do a whole lot with it and it wasn't worth much to be able to sell it (although I loved that ring). A few years after I started dating my current FI, I threw the old ring into a river where the old FI and I used to spend some time.5. It's my FI's first engagement.

Bubbalub

1.  I have been "officially" engaged once, but planning a wedding now for the second time, though we haven't gotten around to getting a ring yet. We've been together 7 years, though.2. First engagement led to marriage, then to divorce.3. I was 22 or 23 for the first engagement (I can't remember when he actually proposed because we started planning the wedding before that. Yeah, I do everything backwards!) I am now 32 and we plan on getting married next year when I'm 33.4. My ex used to use his ring as, well not blackmail really, but he would "emphasize" how angry he was with me by throwing his ring at me. I told him that the day I took MY rings off was the day I left for good. I gave him back my rings soon after I moved out and he knew that was IT. I got his ring back and gave it to my jeweler friend to sell on consignment. I can't remember now if it ever sold.5. This is S's first engagement.