Tell me it's not so bad.

kate51485

All I can say is thank you again, you guys. I have a smile on my face now!

katiewhompus

*hugs* You'll be ok and definitely come here to vent/whine, we'll understand. Dh and I did long distance (Maine to Virginia) for the first 4 months or so of our relationship. We had our first kiss after dating via phone/email for those 4 months. Once we moved in together he worked overnight shifts so even though we slept in the same bed, it was never at the same time and we never were able to talk or be together. As drama as it sounds, even to me, I spent my first birthday with us together crying because he slept all day due to his schedule. We've all been there in some fashion, so definitely lean on us when you need it.

kkchisholm

No... but I think I took it the completely wrong way.

sarah0725

Think of these three words: shave free zone.*blushes*

louisvillebride21

SSB as in not shaving for weeks at a time, tweezing in the living room, things that you're *supposed* to hide from your boyfriend/FI/husband.

mandysmear

I'm not going to lie.  It sucks.But, you'll get through it.  It will feel like an eternity but when it's over you'll say, "that wasn't so bad."  We did it for 7 months or so.  It was brutal.

tidetravel

And when you get lonely, you can come visit me and the cats and the baby

BecW2be

It sucks majorly, but it does fly by. And the sex is amazing. You just have to be independent enough to find things to help you learn and grow while he's doing the same. You'll amaze yourself if you approach it as an opportunity and not a disadvantage to your relationship. Hang in there, and cry all you want. But get up one morning and decide to make the best of it and you'll be fine. I promise!

kate51485

Oh Tide, yes! That would be awesome. Except not good for my own baby fever

e_jakiela

You will be fine. Like pp said, it really sucks immediately after he leaves, but then, you can come up with things that keep you occupied and focused. FI and I were in a LDR for two years - 850 miles away!! We spend almost every evening talking for hours. It really made us closer and got us to know each other better. Treat it as your last time, before your wedding, when you can have girls over, and watch chick flicks in PJs and no one will know You will love what this separation will do to your relationship! It's awesome Plus, you can concentrate on wedding planning

casblanca2010

Keep yourself busy, do things you love and hang out with girl friends. C. and I were apart for 6 months while he was on training. It was hard. He missed our anniversary, my birthday, gradaution... etc. And I cried a bit.... but not much... youll suprise yourself how well youll handle the time apart! And by the time hes back with you the time apart wont seem like anything at all. Are you getting married before or after he leaves? If not until after... you have the wedding to keep you busy!!

tidetravel

Who knows Kate - the kid could be a terror.  She may bring that fever down a few degrees!

aMrsin09

Wow, am incredibly late to this, but DH and I have only been together under the same roof for 3 months of our 3 er relationship.  I would love a RI to MD distance.  We are usually US/Europe; US Australia.  Right now we are Australia/Europe (but that ends in 18 days).In addition to what the others have said, the best part is we had to learn how to talk to each other and how to express ourselves through words.  Actions were few and far between.It will be hard, but IMO, it will make you stronger as a couple.  My problem right now i wondering what th heck I'm going to do with him once he's around all the time!

missy68

Oh hush it Sarah..... I meant LEGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!And yes - pajamas and makeup free all the time; ice cream for dinner; Lifetime (ick) Movie channel all weekend; no boys' panties in the laundry; Wait - I wear my PJs all the time now. I do shave my legs periodically in the winter, but when I was living alone, screw it. Insulation, you know.

panda&squishy

I'm late in the game, but I thought I'd throw my story in. FI and I have had an LDR for about a year and a half now. He went off to Med school while I was finishing up undergrad (this past May). He left late July '08 and I saw him at Christmas. Then he was gone until April '09 when I saw him for a week. I saw him for a week August '09. I will see him one day, Black Friday, and then not again until Christmas this year. We'll be getting married while he's on that break and then it will be over. So over the past year and a half and until the wedding I'll have seen him about a month. I'm not going to lie, it's hard, but it's completely doable considering you two already have a strong relationship. From now until May is a very short time, trust me, and remember it's for a good cause. Again, it's completely doable. If you two don't already have Skype, get it and you can webcam chat every night. HTH!

sucrets4

I'm so glad that I started playing WoW for the 6 months that we were LD.  We would be on the phone talking, but we'd have something to do together.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

FI and I STARTED our relationship long distance. The time we went three months without seeing each other was really hard. Other than that, it was pretty much once a month, which was do-able. I was really busy with school. At the time, though, we had never lived in the same city at the same time, so it would probably be harder separating now that we live together. We had a rule that before we visited, we had to have the next ticket booked (3,000 miles FTW) so that we would know exactly when the next visit would be. It helped to be able to count down the days between like that.