Parents Contribution??

RachNRich

Kiki, I can't help it!!!

janedoe1113a

Really, who has anything better to do on a night before a national holiday?  Anyone?  Not me.

sucrets4

GOD YOU'RE SO IMMATURE.  I FEEL SORRY FOR YOU UNBORN, UNCONCEIVED CHILDREN!!!!!!!

sucrets4

*YOURmother fuucker.

J&K10910

Wow, Sucrets, at first I thought you were correcting the "you're" not the "you."  I did a double take. 

janedoe1113a

Aww...she actually left.

Night_Sprite

Ya know what?  You guys are so mean!  Why are you so mean?  Doesn't ANYONE LOVE YOU?

sucrets4

Haha, I saw it right as I clicked post.  I'm still half asleep.  Happy birthday to me, I took a 3 hour nap and now it's time for bed.

Kati0105

Aww c'mon you guys, she pays for her own rent AND food!  OP, secretly quit school without telling your bank and use all the tuition money to fund your wedding.  But tell your jerk parents they aren't invited unless they pony up a contribution.  HTH!

beatlesgirl25

Dammit, I missed this! Just want to say you guys crack my shiit up. Also, OP? Expecting a "quick yes or no answer" to a 6-paragraph post is as misguided as the question itself.

carrieoz_76

hj - You should not ask anyone for money to pay for your wedding. If your parents or your FI's parents want to give you some, they'll offer it. If they haven't, you need to fund it yourselves. I repeat - you cannot ask for money from anyone to pay for your wedding. No matter what your circumstances are.

phoeny_moonstar

Do you even have to ask? Pay for it yourselves.

jamm2019

Go to the court house and get married.  Or will your parents have to pay for that to?

fangsiting

Weddings are about as frivolous as you can get.  Is there some reason you want them to continue throwing their money away?  Or is your definition of frivolous anything that is not spent on you?

dsouldiva

I appear to have missed all the fun but the Answer to your original question is No, you shouldn't ask.Personally, I would think about trying to tackle the $80k of debt you are in before you even think of having an elaborate wedding, Otherwise you run the risk of getting yourself into the same financial mess you parents look to be in.

andyandhillary

Foot the bill yourselves.  Is the marriage important to you or is the wedding?  You don't need to have a big wedding to have a marriage.  If the party part is important to you then wait. Sticking my nose in....if you have 80K in debt from school maybe you should have a small wedding anyway.  If you take the money you would spend on one day and put it towards that it would take a few years off of your school loans.  Just trying to put it into perspective.

Mrs. Chapiko

Parents aren't obligated to pay for your wedding. If they haven't offered, I think you have your answer.