Uninvited Bridesmaid?

xoxosummer

I have a friend who is pretty much inviting herself to be a bridesmaid in my wedding. She is a good friend but not that good of a friend. I have known her for about two years, and although I really like her a lot I'm just not sure I want to include her in my wedding party with my people I am very close to like my sister, cousins, and best friend of 7 years. She never asked just kind of in a jokingly but not so jokingly said she was planning on being a bridesmaid in my wedding as soon as I told her I was engaged ( I was engaged when I met her) and hasn't really dropped it since. I thought at first she was just really joking but now I realise she is more serious than not. I'd really still like us to continue being friends, but how do I let her down gently without hurting her feelings? Do you know of any ways I can include her without her actually being a bridesmaid?

SlothGoals

I don't think you need to 'let her down gently'; she should figure it out when she isn't asked to purchase a bridesmaid dress. If she decides to stop being friends with you based on this then she probably isn't the kind of friend you want in the long run anyways.

As for including her in your ceremony, perhaps she could do a reading?

Loopyseven

Don't bring it up with her.  Don't talk wedding with her.  Don't mention anything about dresses or anything else with her.  I wouldn't bring it up specifically to tell her she isn't one.  If she asks about bridesmaid stuff or showers or anything, just tell her you're working with your bridesmaids to pick a dress  or that  your bridesmaids are on top of the shower planning and you hope she can make it,- and make sure she's on the guest list since she obviously feels like you have a strong friendship.

MrsL2014

I kind of know what you mean. I am having one of my friends who i have recently grown very close to be my MOH and my younger cousin be a BM.

A few months before getting engaged I had one of my newer friends (T) tell my my FI deserves better than me. We stopped talking for awhile and before we got engaged started talking again. The day I got engaged she asked me if i know who I would want in my bridal party. I said "I will probably just keep it small and have my MOH and little cousin." When I said this she asked me if she was my MOH! Umm....who just does that?

Anyways, i told her no and she was fine with that. Then a few days ago while a group of my college friends and I were together one of my friends asked what I was going to have them wear.

I was not expecting her to think she was in the WP since we arnt as close as we used to be. So basically with being completely shocked that she asked and I said, "What ever you want. I dont have a dress code for guest."

I am actually very shocked at how many people just expect or ask to be in our wedding. It is kind of crazy, my FI even had a guy say "Hey if you need me to be a groomsman I will do it for ya."

I know I cant give much help with what to say to her but like others said, she will figure it out when she inst asked to get a dress.