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lyndausvi

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gifts-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:10c5eab5-7427-4f06-a7dc-86c454b2d1a6Post:38bf4c1b-470f-4291-b04b-e5a8d91f3472">Re: Closed</a>:
[QUOTE]Whatever, fu ck it. You guys don't understand. I meant saying to my gifts something along the lines of "we haven't registered anywhere because we don't feel we need anything but if you want to give us something a visa gift card or target gift card etc would suffice" but you dumb fucks don't get that do you?
Posted by xiondono[/QUOTE]

Actually we do get it and t's still wrong.  Even your own mom said it was wrong.

Geez.  Stop worring about potential gifts.  They are not the point of a wedding anyway.  Focus on more important stuff for your vow renewal.

BTW - I would not spend as much for a gift to a couple who as been married for 2.5 years at their vow renewal.  I would give a gift, I'm not sure I would give the same amount as if it was a real wedding.

Morfudd

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[QUOTE]Whatever, fu ck it. You guys don't understand. I meant saying to my gifts something along the lines of "we haven't registered anywhere because we don't feel we need anything but if you want to give us something a visa gift card or target gift card etc would suffice" but you dumb fucks don't get that do you?
Posted by xiondono[/QUOTE]

Really? You aren't the person who wanted to ask for money because of how expensive the vow renewal would be? Oh, my mistake. Unfortunately I couldn't check, since the original post is deleted and all.

[Deleted User]

The only gift I would give you would be a thesaurus so that you can figure out how to get your point across without sounding like a drunken sailor.

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]ohhhhh nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo. I'lll gett bannnnnnnnnnnnnnneedddddddd???????? WHATEVER SHALL I EVER FUCKING DO???????
Posted by xiondono[/QUOTE]
You do realize that you dojn't have to be banned to stop posting and stop checking this thread, right?  No one is forcing you to come back.

squirrly

Cussing like a sailor isn't going to make people suddenly agree with you.

What people would like you to understand is that, despite not having a traditional ceremony, you are in fact already married.  So, anything else you do should properly be called a vow renewal, blessing, or convalidation, depending on your religion or lack thereof. 

Asking for gifts - for any occasion, at any age, under any circumstances, isn't polite.  A gift is something freely given by the giver because they want to do so.  If you ask, it's not so freely given.  If someone asks YOU what you want, if you would prefer cash, the best thing to do is say, "That's so sweet!  We're really focused on saving for [house/vacation/etc.] right now, and didn't put much thought into a registry.  We're really all set on china."  If they want or are willing to give you cash, they will.  If not - expect a lot of picture frames.  My mother will NEVER give cash at a wedding, because she doesn't want it to turn into gas and groceries.  So, she would give you something for your home.  That's just the way she is.  And since it's a gift, it's her prerogative to do so.

As for the army and marines, they didn't make you get married.  True, being married may have made it easier for you, and may have made financial sense, etc., but they didn't force you to sign a marriage license.  You chose to do so.  And, like all other adults, you need to recognize that your choices have consequences - both good and bad. 

Finally - of all the boards here, Etiquette has potentially the least tolerance for entitlement, requests for validation, etc.  The ladies here give great, solid, time tested advice.  But they don't sugar coat it.  The fact that you didn't like the advice doesn't merit deleting this thread. 

mbcdefg

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_mbc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:898c9ffb-7e5c-4347-bbdf-b710fe372ce1Post:290014a7-fa4e-4659-bcb7-9e3b77cb952d">Re: *MBC*</a>:
[QUOTE]Jumping in: have you read Eats, Shoots & Leaves?  I read it last week and think you'd like it.  I don't think you'd learn much that you didn't already know, but it is a good read for those who are easily annoyed by bad punctuation and its/it's/their/there/they're stuff.
Posted by uppereastgirl[/QUOTE]

You know, I keep meaning to get a copy of it and I haven't done it yet. My first job out of college was as a copy editor, and one of the other copy editors swore by this book and was always consulting it.