Here goes:
BF and I have been in a committed relationship since January, and we're moving in together in December. He has a friend (whom I've met a few times) whose son is getting married in October. The STD for this wedding was sent last November, when BF and I were just friends, so obviously I wasn't included on it.
The last time I saw BF's friend (a couple weeks ago), he mentioned he would see me at his son's wedding. However, BF received the wedding invite in yesterday's mail, addressed only to him and his 16-year-old daughter. BF thought it was odd I wasn't included, but said that since his friend is going through a pretty bitter divorce with his soon-to-be ex-wife (groom's mother), he's not really involved in the wedding planning and maybe my information didn't make its way to the bride.
BF never planned on taking his daughter, so his idea is to RSVP (via text message, per the invite) for us as a couple - same number of seats taken. I get where he's coming from, but also know as a former bride that guests switching up things can be a hassle (adults vs. children, bar calculations, seating charts, etc.) I suggested he mention something to his friend for clarification, but I don't want to be a PITA - it would be nice to go, but certainly not the end of the world and I'm sure with the divorce of the groom's parents, the bride has enough headaches with her guest list already.
Is BF's solution appropriate?