S/O baby name spelling

brookelynpaisley

Because I'm bored...

If you and your DH agreed on a name but not the spelling, would you expect to "win" on the spelling because you carried the baby and went through labor and delivery?

WildRumpus

I think I would have a little more pull over him. Rick's so laid back though, I don't know that it would even be an issue.

Nebb

All of the potential names we have picked out have rather normal spelling so I dont think that would ever be an issue. We have an agreement that if we have a girl, I get to choose but he gets veto power if he really hates the name. If we have a  boy, he gets to choose but I can veto it if I hate it.

ggmae

Yes.

Moneypenny424

We wouldn't have the fight because both of us like traditional (in my view, correct) spellings of names.  No unnecessary y's or whatnot for us.

amalama

Yes! We had a list of I think 5 names we went to the hospital undecided between, and said we'd pick when we saw her. We actually did agree, but if we wouldn't have I would have had final say (out of the 5 that we both liked). Her middle name is after his Grandmother who passed away about a month before Layla was born, and I was not the biggest fan of it. He said we could use something else if I didn't like it, but it was important to him and the first name I liked sounded okay with it so it was fine with me.

We also discussed her last name being mine, and he would have been fine with that. Well, he said he would have been a little hurt but he would have understood. I wanted to give her his name though so it wasn't a problem.

MeaghanandMichael

Yeah, but my husband expects me to be bratty like that So, I doubt it would phase him if I really wanted something.

In the case of my ridiculous name spelling, my sisters won. (My sisters are much older than me, they were 15&17 when I was born.) Every one in my family loved the name Meaghan but they were the ones who went digging through our Irish heritage to find the one they thought was most Irish. My mom even argued people would spell my name wrong my entire life, and well, she was right I don't mind it, but I know it is annoying for other people, especially professionally. People are always apologizing to me for spelling my name wrong.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]All of the potential names we have picked out have rather normal spelling so I dont think that would ever be an issue. 
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

<div>This. I can't think of a name I like that has more than one acceptable spelling. 
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brookelynpaisley

My sister's a Megan - trust me, they'd spell it wrong no matter how you spelled it. People have been trying to put h's and a's in her name her whole life

I don't know that we'd have a spelling issue either, and actually I think I'd concede. Our girl names are actually my picks, so unless I absolutely hated the way he wanted to spell them, I'd go with his choice.

Moneypenny424

If for some reason we DID have an issue, I think I'd win . 

amalama

We never really considered another spelling for Layla, but after she was born we got a lot of cards to 'Leila'. I have never known anyone named Layla so I just figured ours was the "right" way but I guess 'Leila' is more old fashioned. But we also got cards to 'Lila' and 'Leela' and even one 'Lucy' so I guess people we know might just be crazy.

WildRumpus

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[QUOTE]We never really considered another spelling for Layla, but after she was born we got a lot of cards to 'Leila'. I have never known anyone named Layla so I just figured ours was the "right" way but I guess 'Leila' is more old fashioned. But we also got cards to 'Lila' and 'Leela' and <strong>even one 'Lucy' so I guess people we know might just be crazy.</strong>
Posted by amalama[/QUOTE]

I love the name Lucy, but I had a cousin, Lucie who passed away as a baby, so I don't think we can use it.<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-frown.gif" border="0" alt="Frown" title="Frown" />

MeaghanandMichael

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[QUOTE]<strong>My sister's a Megan - trust me, they'd spell it wrong no matter how you spelled it. People have been trying to put h's and a's in her name her whole life :) </strong>I don't know that we'd have a spelling issue either, and actually I think I'd concede. Our girl names are actually my picks, so unless I absolutely hated the way he wanted to spell them, I'd go with his choice.
Posted by brookelynpaisley[/QUOTE]

Very true Brook! I would have to say people never know which end is up with my name haha.

brookelynpaisley

Do you like Lucia? My mom loved it, but was worried it'd be pronounced Loo-sha. You could always talk to Lucie's parents and see how they feel about you using the name. They might be really honored. That's assuming it isn't too weird for you to use it anyway.

WildRumpus

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[QUOTE]Do you like Lucia? My mom loved it, but was worried it'd be pronounced Loo-sha. You could always talk to Lucie's parents and see how they feel about you using the name. They might be really honored. That's assuming it isn't too weird for you to use it anyway.
Posted by brookelynpaisley[/QUOTE]

I do, but I like Lucy better. Her parents are my godparents, so you're right, they would probably love it. That's assuming Rick likes it. He's into super plain names-he's Richard James (Rick James, hehe) and his brother is Robert Leroy. I guess Lucy is still kind of plain, but I think it's a little spunky.

opalsky007

It depends. The way I see it, my H is going to be doing plenty of work too. Also, I've already picked out what in his opinion is a really horrid middle name for our first boy (it's a family name that I want to keep going). So i'd probably give him more say over the first name.

Really, I see us doing exactly what's happened on TK: debating all the reasons for and against each name until we come up with a winner.

amalama

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O baby name spelling : I love the name Lucy, but I had a cousin, Lucie who passed away as a baby, so I don't think we can use it.
Posted by Jill9288[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I wouldn't want to use a name that would bring up sad memories, but her parents (and everyone else) might think it was really sweet actually. But I don't know if I would do it.

I originally wanted to stay away from family names all together, but I knew it meant a lot to him. And even with it being a less tragic situation than yours, it still made everyone a little sad at first. I think all his aunts cried at first, but now it's just her name. But they all thought it was an honor too.

WildRumpus

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O baby name spelling : Yeah, I wouldn't want to use a name that would bring up sad memories, but her parents (and everyone else) might think it was really sweet actually. But I don't know if I would do it. I originally wanted to stay away from family names all together, but I knew it meant a lot to him. And even with it being a less tragic situation than yours, it still made everyone a little sad at first. I think all his aunts cried at first, but now it's just her name. But they all thought it was an honor too.
Posted by amalama[/QUOTE]

It was almost 16 years ago, and they have 3 other children, so I would hope it would be more of a happy, maybe a little bittersweet thing rather than a rip-your-heart-out sadness.

Moneypenny424

I love Lucia (and Loo-CHEE-a), but Loo-CHEE-a rhymes with our last name, so it got taken off the list

opalsky007

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O baby name spelling : It was almost 16 years ago, and they have 3 other children, so I would hope it would be more of a happy, maybe a little bittersweet thing rather than a rip-your-heart-out sadness.
Posted by Jill9288[/QUOTE]

You would think so...but you never know. One of my cousins died over thirty years ago, at age five. To this day my aunt, who has two other children, nearly bursts into tears when it gets brought up.

Maybe you should talk with them about it--put out some feelers and see if they'd be honored by you using the name or whether it would be painful.

WildRumpus

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O baby name spelling : You would think so...but you never know. One of my cousins died over thirty years ago, at age five. To this day my aunt, who has two other children, nearly bursts into tears when it gets brought up. Maybe you should talk with them about it--put out some feelers and see if they'd be honored by you using the name or whether it would be painful.
Posted by opalsky007[/QUOTE]

Definitely. We've still got 3-5 years (hopefully) before it's even an issue.

tlv204

My dad passed away when I was younger, and I really want to use his name, but it's a really odd family name that I don't think H is a fan of (Cap for short, but the full name is...different). So honeslty I'll probably whine a lot and H will probably give in if we ever have a boy and I decide that's really what I want to name him, but I think any children after that I would let H win since my "must have" is not one of his favorite.

My cousin is also named Cap, though, and he's getting married this summer, and we've already begun arguing constantly over who has the "right" to use the name   I don't see why we both can't use it. I mean my cousin and my dad had the same name for 15ish years and it was ok.  There was just Big Cap and Little Cap. But there was also Big Bobby and Little Bobby, Big Sally and Little Sally, and Big Chauncey and Little Chauncey (I know, poor kid). Apparently my family isn't very creative and likes to reuse names. Oh well.

WildRumpus

TLV, my parents used my favorite girl name, Lilly, for our dog, so I guess that one's out for me.

Moneypenny424

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[QUOTE]TLV, my parents used my favorite girl name, Lilly, for our dog, so I guess that one's out for me.
Posted by Jill9288[/QUOTE]

Oh no!  Yeah, that's sort of hard to overcome...though if your parents are anything like mine, they'll be calling everyone by the wrong names (including the dog's name) anyway <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

tlv204

Dude I like Lilly too! And I have a friend with a dog named Lilly, which I guess is not as much of an impediment as parents' dog, but still. The same thing happened with Carrie too, which is also a family name. Man, I am really not creative about names. Either that or I just like my family's taste

WildRumpus

Our dogs have always had human names. My parent's currently have an Ellie, a Ryleigh, and a Solly (Soloman). Rick and I have had a Cooper and now Oxford, which isn't as bad.

amalama

My side of the family is not really into family names. My dad's family all the men have the same initials, but I'm pretty sure that's just my grandpa and all his son's, not generations back.

BF's family is huge into family names though. His mom has almost the same name as her brother because she was the 4th (I think, maybe 5th?) girl and they thought they would never have a son to name after her dad. So then when they kept having babies and had a boy, they just named him after their dad too. And there is another girl in the family with the same middle name as my daughter after BF's grandmother, but he still wanted to use it too. And his name is the same as his father's, but the first and middle are reversed.

Austen2010

I teach and hate it when kids have all kinds of extra vowels etc... in the middle of their name. I also hate it when they have random names like "Sparkle" and "Princess". Ugh.

kimheartsscott

Scott has told me more than once that I can name our baby whatever I want since I have to deal with the pregnancy.  So I would definitely win on spelling.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]We never really considered another spelling for Layla, but after she was born we got a lot of cards to 'Leila'. I have never known anyone named Layla so I just figured ours was the "right" way but I guess 'Leila' is more old fashioned. But we also got cards to 'Lila' and 'Leela' and even one 'Lucy' so I guess people we know might just be crazy.
Posted by amalama[/QUOTE]

<div>I know someone who spells it Laelah. True story. </div>

rccola1981

we've decided on family names but I am (hopefully) combining my grandmother's first and middle names into our daughter's first name so it is kind of an odd spelling, but completely phoenetical...Coressa a combination of Cora Esther.  He likes some odd boys names but ultimately it will be what both of us like...