So, Clare's thread (and some of the comments it engendered) got me to thinking about bridesmaid meetings.
Are they customary? Did you have them? What are your thoughts on bridesmaid meetings in general?
My brother's fiancee has scheduled two bridesmaid meetings so far -- both out of state, and both potlucks. (Seriously? I'm supposed to carry-on a green bean casserole? :facepalm:) I've respectfully declined both invitations and sent my assurances that whatever color scheme/horrific dress/seating arrangement FSIL and her supercontrolling momzilla choose will be a-okay with me.
Needless to say, I find bridesmaid meetings rather inane -- but I could just be a horrible bridesmaid. (In my defense, FSIL and I aren't close. I'm only a bridesmaid because she won't let my brother's female attendants be groomsmen, but she still needs us to "balance the sides" so all of her brothers and cousins can be...)