I feel so bad for this BM. She needs some serious advice on how to deal with a bride who has already made them all buy matching (not exactly cheap) shoes, and is requiring them the get pro hair/makeup, on THEIR dime the day of the wedding.
It also seems that she's been very vocal about the shower/bach party (mentioned later on down the thread). She's asked for advice on how to politely let the bride know they don't want to pay for hair/makeup, and they've got a handle on the shower/bach plans.
I gave my advice, but I wouldn't really be polite in this situation. Most of you ladies have a better way of wording things on here and I thought you all could help.