I have twin younger sisters, neither of which has been around much to hang out with FI. I tried to bring him over to my parents house to socialize when they were in town from college and they always found a way to get out of it.
Sister A has a reason to not like FI. That reason being she doesn't think FI has a right to stand up to my mother when she is bullying me. Long story short, a dog I was in process of adopting out got out of the persons house due to her eldest child (a year younger than me at 23) not watching his feet at the door while on pain meds from a bicycle accident. His mother kicked him out of the house because of this. (Door dashing was the one thing he did with new people) He was hit and killed on a highway. My mother went to pick up the body, and when she brought it to me to bury, she insisted I look at the body. She blamed me for his death saying I didn't do enough research on his potential home. I had, checking backyard, talking to kids AND looking into the dog history which included fostering and successfully placing 7 dogs. But as far as she was concerned it was my fault. I wouldn't look at the dog so she started yelling at me. FI, boyfriend at the time, sat at the side for about 10 minutes while she had at me and decided after that that he couldn't take it anymore. He knows when I'm that distressed I shut down. He stepped inbetween us and told her to back off. That I was hurting worse than I was letting on and I wasn't to be blamed. My mother was so mad that he had the balls to do such a thing, that she THREW THE BOX WITH THE DOG at me and drove off. Sister A only heard my mothers side of the story, and when we talked a few days ago refused to hear my side, giving the arguement that FI is NEVER allowed to talk to my mother like that or "fight my battles for me." My sisters and mother have bullied me for years and I'm only now starting to fight back. And they are getting mad.
Sister B likes him well enough, but she admitted she wishes she knew him better at this point. Shes been 5 hours away at college for 3 years and just got back. She knows her twin is a bit rediculous and copies anythin my mother believes.
A few days ago Sister A told me to my face that she thinks I'm settling for FI and I could do much better than him. That I'm turning into a 1950's housewife and not finding someone "better." Her only reasoning for not liking him? The standing up to my mother.
While I'm not surprised for her not liking him (She has never dated, she has poor body image, and is very reclusive. Thinks men are not worth the trouble) I didn't think she would tell me that point blank. Neither twin is in the wedding party which they cried about (If they don't think I should be marrying him, why should I want them with me on that day?) but I haven't given into their pity party.
Is the one time he has stepped in to defend me when mother was bullying me into believing something that wasn't my fault worth hating my future husband?