So our wedding party is already quite large with an already uneven male-female ratio. I'm thinking I'd prefer not to include the ushers in the photos because that would only make the male-female ratio that much more difficult and I think there would be far too many people in the photos. Also, our rehearsal dinner really has the potential to snowball into a huge event on its own. One of those "If you invite so and so then you have to invite X too..." situations. So, to combat this I'm thinking that the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner will only be the bridesmaids, groomsmen, siblings, and parents. However, this means the ushers would be excluded here also. All of the ushers would have to pay for tuxedos so it seems like excluding them has the potential to be rude, but it would just make things more difficult to include all of them. I'm not sure if there is a traditional way of going about this. So, is it rude not to include the ushers in the photos and the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner??? Thanks!