Open Letters

lpstl

Thanks everyone, over christmas apparently no one had anything interesting to talk about, so everyone just told me what they thought about my pregnancy, childbirth, raising a child, what college would be best for him, etc. Thank god it was a short trip.

cacoffer/bbycakes, I'm doing the bradley method + meditation. I've been doing meditation for about 10 years and I've used it successfully as a pain management technique before.

Georgia, the name is Xavier.

Stackeye, she's never heard of the name. She's from the country where everyone names their kid Bobby Joe or Johnny Ray. She also thinks it's a "black name". I didn't even know how to begin to cultivate a response to that one.

opalsky007

Dear florist,

I know it's the holiday season, but my wedding is in 20 days. I'm sorry you didn't do the math on that when you refused to finalize my floral order until three weeks before the wedding. I'm also a little peeved that you refused to talk business over the holidays on Dec 20, the same day that you posted on your BUSINESS BLOG.

I get wanting to spend time with your family and all, but they clearly weren't as high on your list of priorities as your blog is. I hope my wedding flowers are somewhere on that list of priorities, because I'm starting to wonder if I'm going to have any.

mwhitson14

Dear health insurance,

Why do you have to be so high? Why do you have to be so complicated? All I need is a low deductible, a doctor visit copay, and a prescription copay. I don't need it for very long, so why can't I have something simple and cheap?!

Love,
broke me

Stackeye210

lpstl - a black name?  wow.  My sister had a yellow car once and her IL's said because it was yellow meant it was a black persons car.  They both make about the same amount of sense.

Georgia - what sucks is when you lose 40 pounds they'll think it was them that motivated you to do it. 

bbyckes

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[QUOTE]Stackeye, she's never heard of the name. She's from the country where everyone names their kid Bobby Joe or Johnny Ray. She also thinks it's a "black name". I didn't even know how to begin to cultivate a response to that one.
Posted by lpstl[/QUOTE]

That's a grandma for you.  Hopefully it didn't get to you too bad.  That sucks when people critize something as personal as your child's name.  For what it's worth, Xavier is a good name.  My friend (who isn't black) named her child Xavier Maxwell.  She calls him Zave for short.

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]Betrothed - I think you need to pop your boss in the face regardless just for having to work there this past month. 
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]
I'm beginning to feel this way....  I mean there's a lot of crap I'll put up with, but this is getting ricockulous.

georgia_bride09

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[QUOTE]Georgia - what sucks is when you lose 40 pounds they'll think it was them that motivated you to do it. 
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]

Stack, exactly. As if I can't look in the mirror or try on pants and not know that I might need to lose some weight.

MissLeahM

Warning my letter is WR

Dearest IL's,

You know how you always tell FI that I never talk to you guys about my wedding plans? Well I try, but unfortunately your daughter is an AW, which is fine, shes getting married too, but leave me alone.. [Gosh I sound like a brat]

And no, I am not lazy because I haven't picked out the BMs dresses yet, or booked my cake decorator, or how my hair and making is going to look, or all of the other little things. I found my FH and I have an offiant, I'd be happy wtih just that.

salt78

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[QUOTE]She also thinks it's a "black name". I didn't even know how to begin to cultivate a response to that one.
Posted by lpstl[/QUOTE]

WTF.

mocha beans

LP, that's hilarious to read.  And, can you tell me about this meditation for pain management thing?  I'm going off BC and doing the natural planning thing; I was on BC to ward off horrible cramps, and I'm slightly worried about them coming back and me having to kill my stomach with advil.

Unfortunately, I'm going to work shortly and won't be able to talk back.  TIA.

Mine:

Dear B&N clerk-
Thank you for taking an interest in my reproductive life.  No, not everyone who purchases the Taking Charge of Your Fertility book is trying to get pregnant.  I realize it was a reasonable assumption, but we all know what happens when we make assumptions.  Please don't tell me how fabulous pregnancy is, and then give me the blank stare when I say I'm trying to not have kids and may never have them because they suck.  Kthx.

Toodles-
Random book purchaser

Dear mall parking lot builders/operators-
When you build or manage a large parking lot in a state the routinely gets large amounts of snow in the winter, please use physical aisle markers as well as the lines.  When you don't have it plowed to the asphalt and the lines are covered in snow, your lot is going to be a giant clusterfuck, with people inventing their own parking lot scheme.  This does not make it easy or remotely desireable to navigate.

Toodles-
Disgruntled parker

PS.  Clearly, I should have ordered my book over amazon and not had to deal with either of these issues.

pumpkinpumpkin

LP - her being concerned that it's a "black" name reminds me of my now-passed Gigi (mom's dad).

Mark's mother is Croatian, his dad is German. Both were born in their respective countries. Mark apparently has a very German last name. My mom's family is Polish. Germany joined forces against the Poles in WWI, therefore, he didn't like Mark, instantly. Never even tried, he was just, "that German boy".

brookelynpaisley

LP, that letter was awesome, especially the part to your husband. It was the "exit strategy" line that got me. Oh, are you pronouncing it Zavier, or X-zavier. Just curious.

Dear UPS man,

Thanks for being too damn lazy to leave a note on my door letting me know my snapfish orders had arrived. They just happened to not offer tracking service on those, so I had no idea where they were. As they were Christmas gifts, I had no way of knowing they sat around at the apartment office for 4 days and could have been wrapped and gifted. Now instead, I have to mail them. Thanks.

Me

Dear Christmas Decorations,

Please put yourselves away. I don't have the patience for this shiit after helping my mom with hers.

Love, Me.

BubbleJ

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[QUOTE]Dear house, Please clean yourself. And do the laundry while you're at it. Love, CEW
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

What cew said. In addition,

Dear FSIL,
It is none of your business how my university education is being paid for. It is also none of your buiness why I am thinking of not going back next year. Stop harassing me and getting other family members on your side. Do you really think that having 5 people yelling at me is going to make me do what you want?

Love,
Bubble

Dear R,

This is my first 2 weeks off in 6 years. 6 YEARS!!!!!! No I won't be cleaning the house. Since you get 12 weeks off every year, you won't miss the two weeks of one year that you spend taking care of the house. Because, Lord knows I'm not doing it. Stop complaining about the fact that you feel over worked because I have stopped cleaning for 2 weeks. Get a summer job and pay for a cleaner or do it yourself. There is no way I am wasting my first 2 weeks off in 6 years cleaning up after you,

Love Bubble

lpstl

Mocha, meditation has been incredibly helpful for me for pain management (history of ovarian cysts) and stress. I first got into it while doing yoga, I'd definitely recommend finding a yoga class that does meditation to see if you're interested in it. If that goes well you should be able to find a guided meditation group in your area. Try a few out to get a feeling for what methods work best for you, I use a combo of breathing and muscle relaxation techniques solo with music, laying down. For me, it works better than percocet, which is what I used to take if I had a cyst burst. In a deep meditation I can pretty much block out the pain. I don't know exactly how well this is going to work during labor because of the distractions and interruptions, but my dr is really supportive and my hospital is actually excited about it, so we'll see.

Brooke, it'll be X-zavier, unless we're making a trip to france .

thesuninherhead

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[QUOTE]Dear house, Please clean yourself. And do the laundry while you're at it. Love, CEW
<p>Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]</p><p>I've been asking my house the same thing all week. So far, it's not listening.</p>