Wedding Shower e-vites?

Steph0871

One of my BMs is just starting to plan my shower for August/September.  We've talked about it a little, because my sister is my MOH, but she's only 17.  BM was just looking for ideas and a guest list.  This shower is only my friends from college, etc. that live in the area still. There will be about 18 girls invited (all early to mid-twenties, so checking email constantly, etc.)

When BM asked for addresses, she said no street addresses, just emails.  She's decided to just send it out as an e-vite.    Normally I wouldn't care at all; I usually do an e-vite/phone call for parties and get-togethers that FI and I host.  But. It seems a little too 'casual' for a wedding shower to me?  

Is it too casual? I know I"m not supposed to really have a hand in the planning, but can I say something to BM about it?

Kelly and Devin

I think it is fine.  To be honest, most people would rather get an evite than remembering to call someone and say they are coming.

SarahPLiz

I get evites for everything from baby showers to sex-toy parties. I wouldn't do it for the wedding, but I think its fine for the shower. Showers are generally not very formal occaisions, in my experience.

ootmother2

I wouldn't

tidetravel

The problem with email is that a lot of them get sent to spam or get overlooked or forgotten about completely, because they just sit in an inbox.  There's no way to really tell if someone got them.

Give your BM a list of street address and tell her that you would prefer the invites be sent the old-fashioned way.

banana468

I think it really depends on the person and the type of shower.

MIL rarely checks her email so it's unlikely that she'd even be able to respond.  Some invitations seem to be in order to get to the older relatives that don't even have email.

Steph0871

I think I'll just let it be.  The only "older" person there will be my mom, if she decides to come (she'll be in town with my sister that weekend anyway.)

My only concern was that she's planning on having a fairly "traditional" shower (dorky games/trivia, snacks, mimosas and chit chat.)

Oh, and I love stationery... I may have been looking forward to a paper invite myself

SaraAndrew2010

I think e-vites are fine since the recipients are young friends and it seems like a relatively informal shower.  If it were a shower with relatives, especially older ones, I would say definitely paper invites.