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Uninviting guests?

jcallahan0jcallahan0
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I am getting married in October of this year and have already sent out my invites to all I considered friends. One friend unfortunately has voiced her opinion many times on how she thinks I am moving to quickly (though got married a month after knowing her husband) and doesn't like my fiance. She's also very childish and immature, kind of stuck in the high school-like lifestyle. After much thought I've decided I don't want her at my wedding, as I only want people there who are truly happy for me and support me in this. Is it bad etiquette to uninvite her? What is the best way to uninvite guests you longer want there? 
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  • nda_roxybabenda_roxybabe member
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    That was stupid to send invites so soon.

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  • carrieoz_76carrieoz_76 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_uninviting-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:144032aa-07e9-41f0-95fb-943f85a187e7Post:3f9976ea-68f2-4edc-9a88-edfc673a6285">Re: Uninviting guests?</a>:
    [QUOTE] You can do what you want, including uninviting someone who u are no longer friends with. 
    Posted by Joellee84[/QUOTE]
    Well, sure you can.  But don't go on an Etiquette site and ask if there's a nice way to do it, because there isn't.  It's mean.  And, really, it was OP's fault in the first place for sending invites out so godawful early.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_uninviting-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:144032aa-07e9-41f0-95fb-943f85a187e7Post:f2a4e673-ffef-40d2-a72b-635b2ba04ac2">Re: Uninviting guests?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Uninviting guests? : Well, sure you can.  But don't go on an Etiquette site and ask if there's a nice way to do it, because there isn't.  It's mean.  And, really, it was OP's fault in the first place for sending invites out so godawful early.
    Posted by carrieoz_76[/QUOTE]

    I agree with you, carrie, and while I stand by what I said, joelle seems to take my words with more entitlement than I meant.

    It's a douche move, but if you've carefully considered both sides and thought through any potential future repercussions, then there is nothing saying that you can't.
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  • carrieoz_76carrieoz_76 member
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Uninviting guests? : I agree with you, carrie, and while I stand by what I said, joelle seems to take my words with more entitlement than I meant. It's a douche move, but if you've carefully considered both sides and thought through any potential future repercussions, then there is nothing saying that you can't.
    Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]
    Oh, for sure.  I noticed that she conveniently missed the part where you said it's horribly rude.
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  • thericksontherickson
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    This really can't be real... An RSVP date 4 months out and inviting a brothers ex? If it is I really do not know what to say... 

    If you un-invite someone be prepared to lose them and possibly anyone they know as a friend... Also know it makes you look like a douche...
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  • riverjibriverjib member
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    If you're going to uninvite someone, be straightforward about doing so, and be honest about your reasons. But it's a particularly crappy thing to do after you've officially sent out your invitations. I wouldn't do it.
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  • Joellee84Joellee84 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_uninviting-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:144032aa-07e9-41f0-95fb-943f85a187e7Post:55e1b35c-87b2-4e7b-b587-cb1c560e67e3">Re: Uninviting guests?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Uninviting guests? : Oh, for sure.  I noticed that she conveniently missed the part where you said it's horribly rude.
    Posted by carrieoz_76[/QUOTE]

    Actually didn't miss anything.  I'm not disagreeing that invites were sent to early.  I'm not disagreeing that it is rude to uninvite someone, but if she doesn't care b/c she doesn't like this person then she should make the choice to uninvite her.  That's all sucrets and carrie
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