My FI and I are not very close with his family. Though we've never understood why, we have always felt they do not support our relationship. We have talked to them about it and we get along with them when we see them, but we aren't very close and neither side makes much of an effort to be "close" but all parties seem fine with this. We are working with a VERY limited budget and his family alone is a total of about 50 people. (We wanted a guest list of around 60). We are paying for the wedding ourselves. Though we don't want to leave his family completely out of the picture because we could regret it later, we don't want to spend a large amount of money nor share our day with dozens of people we never see or spend time with. We are entertaining the idea of having a daytime ceremony and inviting everyone from both sides of the family then, later that evening, having a very, very small "reception" that will allow us to have a first dance and dinner and drinks with our closest friends. I would love to hear thoughts and ideas from others, especially those who have been in similar situations.