my fiance and I are having our rehearsal dinner at a local restruant (ponderosa) that is where he took us on our first date. So to us it has special memories. We are paying for everyone in the wedding attendants, parents, grandparents, flower girl and pastor. My question it do I have to pay for spouses of people in the wedding? I have talked with my bridemaids and they all seem to think I dont need to but i am not sure??