Invitation wording question

MareS1

I am in charge of invitations for my daughter's wedding.  She would like to let guests know that they would like to receive monetary gifts in order to help pay for the honeymoon.  How do I let guests know this, what wording would be appropriate?  Is it proper to include this in an invitation?  Please help.

MissKate2011

There is no appropriate wording for that.   It is never appropriate to have any gift information in a wedding invitation.

cfaszews has the right way to do it.

specialk84

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitation-wording-question-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:15b7fe0f-4468-4d1c-ad13-83ac1862b599Post:63dcfe62-58fe-4f35-9389-4294b443a318">Re: Invitation wording question</a>:
[QUOTE]There should be absolutely NO mention of gifts anywhere on the invitation, monetary or otherwise. What you can do: 1) Tell your daughter to make a small registry. This indicates that she would prefer monetary gifts, since there isn't a lot of "stuff" to buy. 2) Spread via word of mouth that they are saving for the honeymoon. Ex - "Mare, where is Daughter registered?" "Oh, she is registered at X, but they are also saving up for their honeymoon!" This would be the best, and most proper, way to spread this information. Good luck!
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

<div>Listen to her.  She's smart.</div>

jyllyen

Agree with above.  And we are using this website for our honeymoon registry:

honeyfund.com

There are a whole bunch of other options like it out there as well.

artbyallie

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitation-wording-question-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:15b7fe0f-4468-4d1c-ad13-83ac1862b599Post:23b67ae9-de05-4a02-b270-dfa7915f181a">Re: Invitation wording question</a>:
[QUOTE]Agree with above.  And we are using this website for our honeymoon registry: honeyfund.com There are a whole bunch of other options like it out there as well.
Posted by jyllyen[/QUOTE]

<div>Please don't do this. It's much better to just let your guests give you cash/checks because honeymoon registries take a cut of the money and are frankly, quite misleading. They say you're paying for the couple to get a massage or whatever, when really they're just going to give them the money minus a fee.</div>

artbyallie

Aw, edielaura, you beat me to it!

amy7177

to make sure you receie money instead of gifts just dont put a registry on the ivitation. etiquettes says its rude to ask for money. However, I just received an invite that had a seperate insert included and stated the same exact thing. i already planned on giving them money so to ask was rude. When people rsvp, now that is the time to tell them. most people will ask what they need/want or where they are regitered. then that is the opportunity to tell them. if they are going on a honeymoom just pass it along by word of mouth. most people willl automaticly want to give them money.

MareS1

Thank you all for your input.  The opinions seem to be unanamyous and I will take the advice.  Good luck to all on their big day.