Bridal Shower Question

kes110

I go to a rather large church, and today my mom informed me that a lady in her sunday school class wanted to throw me a bridal shower and invite members of the sunday school class. This would be great, except for the fact that there are about 75 people in my mom's sunday school class and there is no way I can invite all of them to the wedding. Everything I've read says that shower guests should be invited to the wedding as well, so what do I do? I feel rude telling her not to throw me a bridal shower, but I would feel just as rude letting these women throw me a shower and then not inviting them to the wedding.

mwhitson14

Churches are usually the exception to that rule. That said, I declined a church shower because I felt like it was rude and I wasn't inviting most of our church. We have a pretty huge church, and I just didn't want to open that can of worms.

srkropf

Yeah, Churches and work I think are the exception

kellie royn

Church showers are definitely an exception; chances are, the ladies want to throw you a shower regardless of whether or no you are able to invite them. If they end up asking, say something about having a limited guest list and just make sure you write them all effusive thank-you notes

pooh8402

we had a church shower with about 30-40 church ladies who were friends with MIL. I knew about 5 of them. it was awkward.

Calumet

The women of my church threw me a shower fully knowing they weren't invited to the wedding, [though since a church is a public building and our church has a history of members' weddings being open to the congregation, many of them did end up coming to the ceremony]. It was a wonderful day because all of these people watched me grow up. As long as no one at this shower thinks that they are invited, and will be offended by their lack of invitation, yes, churches are the exception.  Though as one PP pointed out, if you don't know any of these people, it might be really awkward despite the fact that it isn't breaking etiquette. Also, I definitely wouldn't invite some of them to the wedding and not the others.

EDIT: Ahhh I misspelled etiquette... don't beat me up, it was the first time I've ever done it!!