We are doing a destination wedding (PA to North Carolina), and are planning on inviting ~120 guests (family and a few friends), with the knowledge that only about 35 - 40 of them will attend. We are then planning an at home celebration for the same guest list (guests can choose to attend both or only one -- or none).
I'm not involved with planning my bridal shower, but I do know there will be one and helped pick the date. Etiquette-wise, is it okay to give my sister (the only bridesmaid and shower planner) the full 120 person guest list for her to use to populate the bridal shower invite list? Or, should she only invite those who are going to attend the actual wedding ceremony in NC?