Invitation Response

dewingedpixie

One of my good childhood friends is getting married this November. I received the invitation yesterday, and my fiance's name is spelled wrong. I am unsure if she'll be doing table seating with name cards since it is going to be a barbecue setting, but I do know they will be doing a formal dinner the night before which we have also been invited to. My question is when we send back our response is it ok for me to correct the spelling? His name is a common name but he has an older little known spelling. I don't want to be rude, but I know it drives me bonkers when people miss-spell my name and I don't want him to feel uncomfortable if we get place cards since the invitation was written to my daughter, him, and myself in names.

Mrs.B6302007

It is certainly okay for you to fill in the M__________ line with the correct spelling.  HOwever, she may not even notice and just check you guys off on the list so don't be too surprised or upset if you get to the wedding and the seating card is incorrect.

lyndausvi

Of course it is. Both DH' s and my names are spelt wrong all the time. I correct it on the response and leave at that.

dewingedpixie

Thank you ladies. she is a good friend of mine but moved out of state a few years back. I dont see her as often as I'd like and I dont want to be rude. I'm looking forward to seeing her big day in a few months.

lyndausvi

Rude would be " why did you assume my DH spells his name 'x'? You should have called to find out the correct spelling". Writing the correct spelling on a response card is not rude.

Lisa50

Yes, please correct the spelling on the response card.  Your host did not intentionally misspell your fiance's name.

pokepoke27

Two days before the wedding the minister sent me an email saying "I look forward to seeing you and David at the wedding!" 

H's name is not David. Not even close - although it does start with a D. So I replied with "D and I can't wait!" 

It's not rude to correct someone - but like Mrs. B said, be prepared for her to not notice the spelling.

Kate61487

Definitely correct it, depending on how much it bothers him or how close you are to the bride I might even call her up just to let her know. 

H has a younger cousin named Kierstyn; you could probably guess I spelled it wrong the first time (on the STDs).  I'm glad her mom let me know; as a Kathryn I totally get the frustration and it certainly didn't offend or upset me that she mentioned it.  If you approach it as "hey we got the invitation yesterday, we're so excited!  Just to let you know Jon actually spells his name without the h.  We can't wait to see you guys in August!" I'm sure she'll just be glad to know.

kateguess22

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[QUOTE]One of my good childhood friends is getting married this November. I received the invitation yesterday, and my fiance's name is spelled wrong. I am unsure if she'll be doing table seating with name cards since it is going to be a barbecue setting, but I do know they will be doing a formal dinner the night before which we have also been invited to. My question is when we send back our response is it ok for me to correct the spelling? His name is a common name but he has an older little known spelling. I don't want to be rude, but I know it drives me bonkers when people miss-spell my name and I don't want him to feel uncomfortable if we get place cards since the invitation was written to my daughter, him, and myself in names.
Posted by dewingedpixie[/QUOTE]

Definitely ok for you to correct the spelling! That wouldn't be rude at all. If the place cards are also spelled incorrectly I wouldn't sweat it and I'd encourage him not to worry about it.

dewingedpixie

I showed fiance the invite today. He says if it gets spelled wrong its not a huge deal he's used to it but we are going to put the correct spelling on the reply. Good news is one of her bridesmaids is my maid of honor so she's pretty good about making note of those things, but if it gets lost in the mix no biggy I'm just happy I get to be appart of her big day .