mouthy guest...avoid the drama?

juliu1je

So there is a certain someone that basically invited herself and her boyfriend to my wedding... I obliged and put them on the list since we were getting to be pretty good friends. Right now she is saying she hates my fiance.  She directly told him that there was nothing she could regret saying to him. Now she's giving me the silent treatment for standing up for him.  Can I PLEASE take her off of the guest list even though I already sent out the save-the dates? It probably was a bad call in the first place to invite her, and I know it sounds kind of rude but I really don't want her starting drama at my wedding...especially when its directly with us...

Kate61487

uninviting someone is really rude.  That being said, if you have no interest in continuing to be friends with her then what do you care if you're rude to her?

LDYGTR13

I thought this said "Monthly guest" and I was very worried this was about your period. I'm glad I was wrong.

Girlie1030

If you've already sent her a save the date, you need to send an invitation as well.  If she's not talking to you like you said, chances are she won't come anyway. 

Kate61487

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[QUOTE]I thought this said "Monthly guest" and I was very worried this was about your period. I'm glad I was wrong.
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

ha, I thought that too. 

whitsy

If you're not worried about being friends with this person any longer, don't invite her. It's against etiquette, and it's rude, but you probably don't really care at this point if she's being rude.

Personally, I'd be the bigger person and invite her. She'd probably decline anyway. If she starts drama at your wedding, she'll look ridiculous.

PetalPockets2012

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[QUOTE]I thought this said "Monthly guest" and I was very worried this was about your period. I'm glad I was wrong.
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

This is how I read it too! I really didn't want to read about dealing with your period on your wedding day.

July2012bride

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[QUOTE]I thought this said "Monthly guest" and I was very worried this was about your period. I'm glad I was wrong.
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]
Me too LDY, me too.

juliu1je

haha yeah I'm pretty sure I can handle that one on my own haha.

mollyehren

I am in a similar position we sent out STD's and one of my friends kinda got up in my face about how she cannot be supportive of our marriage because religiously we are "equally yoked". This friend is EXTREMELY religious, I am religious but not a zealot, and fiancee grew up Jehovah's Witness but  opted to leave and thinks that religion is bogus. I wouldn't say fiancee is an athiest more like agnostic. Either way my parent are on different pages religiously and it has been fine for them the last 35 years. I pretty much left the arguement as a "you can have your believe and I'll have mine " situation. Since I sent this girl a STD I am going to send her an invite because it is the right thing to do, even though I know he will decline.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]I thought this said "Monthly guest" and I was very worried this was about your period. I'm glad I was wrong.
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

I don't think I could take another one of those threads.

RaptorSLH

If you are ready to end the friendship - and IMO, "I have the right to say whatever horrible things I want to your life partner" would do it - then tell her that, given the current circumstances, you think it best if you part ways.  That will, as a consequence, mean no invitation to the wedding.

For anything less than the complete bridge burning, yes, she gets an invite.

mickers2012

I have to say that even though it would be rude not to invite the friend it was rude for her to insult your future husband....He is going to be your family now and that is all there is to it, no one should insult your family..

rebarobert2012

It sounds like she would probably decline the invitation anyway.