I have two questions, both wedding etiquette related, but not related to each other. I was going to put both in one post but this one got a little long so I will split them up instead.
I have worked at a community bank with 8 branches for the past 10 years. The week I got engaged, I got moved to a new branch. I had already decided to invite supervisors and above from my orignal branch. We are having a small-ish wedding (75-80), so we had no room for people from the new branch.
However, the women at the new branch have been so supportive. They ask questions about the wedding all the time, have asked me to bring in my shoes, jewelry, look at my dress online, etc. I don't discuss the wedding unless they ask, as I know it would be rude to do so, but they bring it up A LOT.
I want to do something nice for them to thank them for all of their support during the wedding planning. I was thinking something simple like baking cookies or something. My question is: Is it rude to draw more attention to the fact that they aren't invited? Like, "I know you're not invited to the big party, so here's your consolation prize of cookies." (Obviously I would never actually say that.)
FWIW, if we had more room in the budget and didn't want to keep the wedding fairly intimate, I would have invited them. Also, it's worth noting that I am a supervisor and the women I am referring to are tellers, so technically they are my subordinates. They are all also in their 50's and 60's (I'm 29).
Also, any advice or other suggestions for thank you gifts would be much appreciated.
Off to post question #2.