cash bar

SarahSmile23

psst scroll to the bottom:

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_limited-open-bar-really-ok_.1

baby green bird

eeeks. i don't know what's wrong with young people these days::shakes head like a little old lady::

betrothed123

BGB, I will do that when I get home.  I think you're my only knottie FB friend that plays Mafia Wars.

brimcleod

I definitely skipped all those posts, but I can tell you what my wedding planner's suggestion was.

If you can't afford the alcohol for everyone, but you can't do a cash bar or don't want to (at our venue, alcohol cannot be SOLD on the premisis), you could send out a card with the invitation saying that you can purchase a ticket for like $5 or $10, which would still be very cheap, and then people with the ticket (or maybe a wristband) can drink all night for free. Just an idea.

banana468

Yeesh brimcleod.  I'd fire your wedding planner.

laurenclaire1386

Correction Bri: it's just a BAD idea.

vallyhoo

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cash-bar-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1981cc21-957f-44ec-94a6-35d3e17eb85dPost:615df861-729c-41df-a6c0-90493c4ff03d">Re: cash bar</a>:
[QUOTE]I definitely skipped all those posts, but I can tell you what my wedding planner's suggestion was. If you can't afford the alcohol for everyone, but you can't do a cash bar or don't want to (at our venue, alcohol cannot be SOLD on the premisis), you could send out a card with the invitation saying that you can purchase a ticket for like $5 or $10, which would still be very cheap, and then people with the ticket (or maybe a wristband) can drink all night for free. Just an idea.
Posted by brimcleod[/QUOTE]

Your wedding planner sounds like a moron.

Your reception isn't a club, no one needs a drink ticket or a wristband.

And a <strong>twit</strong>stamp? Fitting.

betrothed123

OMG, Brim.  Fire her right now.  She's so wrong on that one.

MeaghanandMichael

oooh Brim is back. She did something delectable the other day too, I just forget it now. I think fishy was involved. Refresher?

betrothed123

I also remember some sort of insanity out of Brim earlier this week/last week, but don't recall the details.

sarah0725

It will be a sad day indeed if the P&E consensus on cash bars ever changes. Although, given that I've been kind of AWOL myself, who knows what I'm missing?

MeaghanandMichael

SARAH!!! where have you been? I demand and explanation NOW.

sarah0725

Um... I got buried under work at the end of the semester, then had Christmas craziness with my family, then went to Salt Lake City for a week, then Vegas, then drove back to Milwaukee with Charlie, stopping among other places at a hot spring in Colorado, then flew from Chicago to JFK, then drove back to Delaware, where I am now? I've been everywhere, man.

eastunder1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cash-bar-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1981cc21-957f-44ec-94a6-35d3e17eb85dPost:615df861-729c-41df-a6c0-90493c4ff03d">Re: cash bar</a>:
[QUOTE]I definitely skipped all those posts, but I can tell you what my wedding planner's suggestion was. If you can't afford the alcohol for everyone, but you can't do a cash bar or don't want to (at our venue, alcohol cannot be SOLD on the premisis), you could <strong>send out a card with the invitation saying that you can purchase a ticket for like $5 or $10, which would still be very cheap, and then people with the ticket (or maybe a wristband) can drink all night for free.</strong> Just an idea.
Posted by brimcleod[/QUOTE]

WTF.  This may be the dumbest, tackiest thing I've ever heard of here and I've been here for a long time.  I'm being serious.  WTF. 

MeaghanandMichael

Holy moly, I couldn't even keep that straight reading it, never mind actually doing it!! Welp, good to have you back little lady

sarah0725

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cash-bar-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1981cc21-957f-44ec-94a6-35d3e17eb85dPost:5853cfea-f0b6-4c83-8724-d9a60b970152">Re: cash bar</a>:
[QUOTE]Holy moly, I couldn't even keep that straight reading it, never mind actually doing it!! Welp, good to have you back little lady :)
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

Thanks! I'll be back in commission 100% pretty soon, and then I have a bunch of wedding related questions that I've been saving for a period when I have a lot of time to spend here. I suspect I'm about to become a post hoar.

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: cash bar : WTF.  This may be the dumbest, tackiest thing I've ever heard of here and I've been here for a long time.  I'm being serious.  WTF. 
Posted by eastunder1[/QUOTE]

Ditto 4000 times

baby green bird

ah yes, the tacktastic ticket for booze idea.klassy. the cash bar is rude, tacky, crass and cheap.

if you can't do a full open bar, (and who really could) do beer and wine. absolutely do not charge your guests for drinks at your wedding.

they have bougtht you a gift, perhaps traveled and maybe arranged for child care. they don't open the wallet at your wedding.

if you're going to charge for drinks, why not charge for the dinner ::::eye roll::::

deliciapatricia

I've only ever been to one wedding with a full open bar.  I have no problems with cash bars.

ootmother2

I "think" that I have only been to one wedding with even a partial cash bar.

My cousin (and BFF) was married, against her parent's wishes at 22. Baby on the way.  The only money the parents wanted to put out was for an abortion and her father reoffered right before he walked her down the aisle.  They were both very young, crazy in love and thought that love would see them through tough times.
Funny thing is that it did.  They have been married 25 years, 2 kids, good life.

The only reason I remember a cash bar is that they were chefs and their friends in the restaurtant business did their wedding,complete with wines to accompany each dish.  So it wasn't totally cash bar,  If you didn't like the wines, you
could go to a the bar in the restaurant and buy a drinks.

They provided the best they could, eff anyone who didn't think that was enough

SarahSmile23

OMG!

check out what the sweet cheeks person just said about cash bars on this thread. it's one of my favorite things ever. i can't believe there are people like this.

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_limited-open-bar-really-ok_.1

thesuninherhead

I wasn't aware that our opinions on this issue had changed.