Bride or Grooms name first on Thank you cards?

maputz

Hi Everyone,
I'm new to this board, but really looking for some guidance! I know for the inivations, you put the bride's name first. However, I'm wondering what to put on the thank you notes that we send out after the wedding. Should it say Margaret and John Last Name or John and Margaret Last Name? I also want to print extras so we can use these after the wedding too, and at that point, I think I will be the one mostly using them.

What did you do! Thanks so much!

Beachy730

I would delete your full names from that post.  

And I think it sounds better with his name first in  your case.  I think we did H's name first on your TY cards.

Beachy730

I think she meant on the outside of the card, not the signature.  But that could just be me.

MattsPenguin

I've been signing our thank yous "Anne and Matt".  He's signing them "Matt and Anne".

mica178

Jane and John Doe.  Don't use those thank you notes until after the wedding.

GeauxTigers17

If you're talking about a design for the front, it's your name first. 

If you're talking about signing the card, only sign your name. Thank you cards should never be "signed" by a person who didn't write the note. 

tenofcups4me

The woman's name goes first.

jessicabessica

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bride-grooms-name-first-thank-cards?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:19d7e1cc-25be-47b0-9875-1f7b9496e665Post:2546fbff-0cea-4710-90af-ee6e6565df24">Re: Bride or Grooms name first on Thank you cards?</a>:
[QUOTE]If you're talking about a design for the front, it's your name first.  If you're talking about signing the card, only sign your name. <strong>Thank you cards should never be "signed" by a person who didn't write the note. </strong>
Posted by GeauxTigers17[/QUOTE]

Agree with the bolded part, although I don't know that that was the question.  You should try to mention the other person's name in the card (e.g. "D and I look forward to making pizza with our new pizza stone."), but only the card writer should sign the card.

And I second the suggestion for OP to delete her full name from her post. 

kat22885

You should never separate a man from his last name, so it should be your name and his name last name.

achiduck

The woman's name goes first, but IMO people will know who you are, I'd just use your first names.

GeauxTigers17

You could do just first names, but I personally prefer the more formal cards for a formal wedding. Heck, ours say Mr. and Mrs. Hisfirst Ourlast, because I just thought it was pretty (it's just an ecru foldover engraved on the front). I think that's all personal preference - it doesn't matter that people will know who it's from. 

maputz

Hi Everyone - thanks for your reply! Yes, my questions was on the front of the Thank You cards, where we have our names printed. So, I think I have heard that it should be Jane and John Doe on the front of the invitation, in the pre-printed part. However, it's good to know that only the person writing the thank you note should sign the thank you note!

girliegirlral

I actually ordered 2 versions of Thank You cards.  One with just my name and his name for gifts received before the wedding, and one with my name and his name and our last name for gifts after the wedding.