Honeymoon registry

Knottie_22382219

My fiancé and I have been together for over 7 years and have owned a home together for over 5 years. We will be paying for our own wedding, so really won't have any of our own extra money for our dreamed of Pacific ocean honeymoon. Since we really don't need the normal bridal registry gifts, we've been living here for over 5 years, would it be tacky to only register via a travel agent honeymoon registry?

I have had mixed feelings and would like to hear what others think.

Thanks in advance!

Sierra524

Just to let you know, its pretty universal around here to not be very accepting of honeymoon registries. They are considered rude and tacky. First, you are essentially just asking your guests for money. Secondly, the HR registries are really tricky. People think that they are buying you a couples massage, but all you really get is a check for less than the amount of the massage because the company takes a fee.

You can create a small registry if you want. Register for things that you need upgraded. After living together for 5 years, you might need new sheets, towels, dishes. I reccommend creating a small registry or no registry at all.

Please rethink the honeymoon registry.

Simply Fated

Tacky or not, it's a type of scam. They charge you or your guests extra money for using their services. So while a guest tries to give you 100 for one night's stay at the hotel, you'll only get about 95. You're much better off spreading the word that you're saving up for a honeymoon. Skip the honeymoon sites and travel agencies.

libby2483

Yes, it is tacky.

Knottie_22382102

Honeyfund doesn't charge the fees.

I wanted to do this but after hearing feedback from the board, decided against it. If you search the boards for honeyfund, honeymoon registry or non-traditional registry, you will get a ton of posts

Amyzen83

Before coming on here, I didn't know that they were rude or tacky, but personally I'd much rather spread by word of mouth and get my entire check without sharing with the travel agency. I don't care if my friends have a honeymoon registry, because I can understand there are couples who've lived together or have been on their own and don't really need much. I would suggest having a traditional registry for things that you do want to upgrade but never really got the chance to and then put somewhere on your website that you would like to also save for your honeymoon.

yellowrose314

The very thought of a honeymoon registry makes my skin crawl. It belongs in that special level of etiquette hell along with cash bars, dollar dances and cake smash bets... *shudder*. So yeah.. just... don't go there.

Not like my lovely mother, who called me a few nights ago all excited because she took the liberty of signing FI and I up for one! I wanted to cry... I told her to delete it if she could, and if she couldn't, not to tell anyone about it because we in no way shape or form wanted our name attached to it. She was a little upset, but honestly I was so horrified that she would do it. She understood the reasoning once I explained it to her though, luckily.

Knottie_22386269

As PPs have said honeymoon registries are tacky. Just do a small registry with things you want to upgrade, like new sheets or towels. Or a nice new laptop you never know someone might get it for you.

Simply Fated

In Response to Re:Honeymoon registry:[QUOTE]Honeyfund doesn't charge the fees. I wanted to do this but after hearing feedback from the board, decided against it. If you search the boards for honeyfund, honeymoon registry or nontraditional registry, you will get a ton of posts Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]
Honeyfund uses paypal, which has fees involved. Don't be fooled.

MoonlightSilver

I'm sorry, no matter how long you've lived together, there are still traditional bridal registry things you will need or want. Register for a small number of traditional items, and then if anyone asks you mention that you're saving for the honeymoon. 

banana468

Ditto PPs. And if you can't afford the honeymoon, don't have one. I'd hate to be a guest who contributed to one just to find out that you never did take that trip and just took the cash instead.

hoffse

Re: the honeyfund fees comment - Honeyfund does charge a fee if you use paypal.  They do not charge a fee if guests send you a handwritten check.... but that's entirely redundant because you would have gotten cash anyway via check, and then it can go to your account without your guests having any expectation of what it is to be used on.  I honestly don't understand the point of "free" honeyfund at all - it's just an attempt to mask the fact that the couple is asking for cash directly.

misshart00

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_honeymoon-registry-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1a26c05e-6d0b-4ff5-a54a-74883465a958Post:50b1ec75-c8d1-4119-a818-fdaaff4e9ce2">Re: Honeymoon registry</a>:
[QUOTE]Re: the honeyfund fees comment - Honeyfund does charge a fee if you use paypal.  They do not charge a fee if guests send you a handwritten check.... but that's entirely redundant because you would have gotten cash anyway via check, and then it can go to your account without your guests having any expectation of what it is to be used on.  I honestly don't understand the point of "free" honeyfund at all - it's just an attempt to mask the fact that the couple is asking for cash directly.
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This. A guest buys something and they get a pop up that tells them to write a check for how much that costs and give it to you. Why not skip the middleman and avoid looking rude?

Plus, what if your honey fund website says someone bought you plane tickets, but you never get the check?

misssunshine17

Plenty of people go on their honeymoon well after their wedding. Surely you'll get some cash for the actual wedding, so use that for your honeymoon, just plan it after the wedding. Problem solved without having a tacky honeymoon fund.

Peledreamsofrain

Just have a tiny registry and spread it via word of mouth that you want cash if people ask what you prefer. Honeyfunds are just one more way corporations have figured out to milk your money. It's a scam, don't give them free money that should be yours.

allychase

I always find it hard to believe there is NOTHING a couple can register for. Celebrities with all their millions of dollars always seem to find some siht to buy so why not set up a wish list with a ton of awesome, upgrade items that you will get for free? Not to mention you are almost guaranteed to get a ton of cash and checks on your actual wedding day withOUT having a HM registry.