I understand that he who pays, says, but...

damaless

My dad is splitting the cost of the wedding with my mom and my FI's parents.  He just sent me an email saying he forgot to add a couple of his friends to the guest list (who I don't know).  At less than two months to the wedding I feel like the time it would take to order the extra invitations, send them to these people, and get their RSVPs back, would put me past the deadline to tell the venue how many guests are coming.  Is it appropriate for me to reply that I hope he understands, but at this point the time constraints don't allow me to invite extra people?  The venue has enough space, and a month ago or so he sent a similar email about a different set of friends he had forgotten to invite and I accommodated him, but at this point it's time that I'm more concerned about.

Kelly and Devin

Maybe there is some way that you can send other invites....do you really have NONE left?  If so, I would think that although it might be tacky, I would at least have your dad explain the situation and invite them if he wants them there.  I guess I feel like you don't want him to invite more people more than you are willing to make adjustments for them.

damaless

I legitimately have zero invitations leftover.  At the beginning of forming the guest list I had my parents and FI's parents give us lists of friends that they would like invited to the wedding.  I guess I am just getting a bit annoyed that this is the second occasion (months after "finalizing" the guest list) that he has emailed me saying "oh btw there are these extra people I forgot to add to my list".  I just feel like if they were that important he would have remembered to add them the first time around (or second, or third).  

edit: BTW, just in case people are wondering, I did order extra invitations in the first place, at this point even those ones have been used up for the first set of extra people my dad wanted me to invite, and some people my mom gave me the wrong address for so I had to send them a second one to the right address.

tidetravel

I don't think you're out of line by telling him that you don't have any more invites left, and that it's too late to order them and get them out.  Be prepared, though, for him to offer to pay for rush shipping, or just say that they don't need a "formal" invite.  Are you ok with him inviting these people if those situations arise?

damaless

I wouldn't fight very hard, because it's not worth the drama, but my preference is that if these people can't get formal invitations because they weren't important enough to him to invite in the first place, then they shouldn't be invited at all.  It would definitely be obvious to them that they were a last-minute afterthought.

Birdie1483

I really wouldn't worry so much about it. Just make some of your own invitations that look like your original with a kit from Staples or Vista Print and mail them. No one will know and if your dad forgot them until now, they probably aren't close enough to you for you to care about their opinion regarding them. They're really just a piece of paper anyways. If it gets down to the wire with telling the vendor your head count, I would just include them and not worry about it so much.

katiewhompus

I would just tell him that it is too late to order more invitations for the wedding, as the guest list was finalized months ago and the extra invitations were used to accomodate his other friends.
Maybe also mention that you will need to give your vendor a final head count soon, so he can't keep adding on more people.

SweetLaura286

 I would present him the situation as you told us, and see what he says. He may want to just verbally invite them and everyone may be okay with that.... in that case, you'll get your head count in on time. Good luck!

Simply Fated

Yeah, the lack of proper invitations might not be a good enough for excuse for him.

I would discuss a deadline with him, though. I mean, this is the second time he has asked to do this and it might not be the last. Sit down with him... go over the budget and timeline and even the fact that you have never even met these people and see if he can see where you are coming with. If these new guests can be accommodated, great, but if not, then he needs to decide if it's worth it. Just my thoughts, though.