Can I email?

kay0003

I have family members sending in their reply cards with their childrens names included (and their children were not invited).  I'm not very close with the family members that have done this and want to just send an email letting them know our wedding/reception is "adult only" and sorry you can't bring your kids (I would word in much nicer than this......)  Is this totally rude to do over email? 

Mrs.B6302007

I would call so that you know the message gets across.

sonya_hoff

I think the news would go over much better over the phone. Even if you are not close with them, it would be nice of you to reach out and tell them how sorry you are that little Johnny isn't invited.

nda_roxybabe

I would do it over the phone.

flutgrl1

I dont do phone. So I would email (of course I put it on the invites so I didn't have to deal with it...runs away from flames)

ps I don't regret it. We had a few friends of family who still didn't get it but thankfully my stepmom handled it with her guests.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I'd call. OR if you're really uncomfortable, have your parents do it (if they are your parents' guests) or your FI do it (if they are his family or friends).

maggieck

Your invitees should have realized that their children were not invited when their names did not appear on the invitation. So now the guests are being rude by ''bringing the kids"

However. you do not fix that rudeness by saying - Oh I'm sorry your kids weren't invited don't you know that? Instead you suck it up & make room for the kiddies.

If you insist on adding insult to injury you must call them on the phone yourself & explain why these people can't bring their children.

Mrs.B6302007

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_can-email?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1b491417-2b82-4e72-99e8-bacd4e485c77Post:f6181ba2-4d62-4429-9571-b9828b168536">Re: Can I email?</a>:
[QUOTE]Your invitees should have realized that their children were not invited when their names did not appear on the invitation. So now the guests are being rude by ''bringing the kids" However. you do not fix that rudeness by saying - Oh I'm sorry your kids weren't invited don't you know that? Instead you suck it up & make room for the kiddies. <strong>Absolutely not.  If a B&G don't want kids at the wedding, they're under no obligation to include them just because a guest was too dense to realize the little angels weren't invited.</strong>  If you insist on adding insult to injury you must call them on the phone yourself & explain why these people can't bring their children.  <strong>Why is it insult to injury?  </strong>
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Calypso1977

Your invitees should have realized that their children were not invited when their names did not appear on the invitation. So now the guests are being rude by ''bringing the kids"

However. you do not fix that rudeness by saying - Oh I'm sorry your kids weren't invited don't you know that? Instead you suck it up & make room for the kiddies.

what???  the B&G have every right to clarify who the intended invitees were.