Morning after brunch, WWYD?

jnic0319

Here's the abbreviated situation, not a huge deal but wondering what would you do?

FI's family always has a morning after brunch, my family never does.  We were not going to have one.  In order to compromise FMIL booked a 20 room gorgeous inn in the area for immediate family so that we could all meet downstairs in the morning for breakfast (she also reserved the HM suite for us as a gift).  Now I'm 4 months out and everyone is scrambling to stay with us.  I have one room left and 5 people who want it.  FMIL and her friends booked 10 of the rooms (so much for immediate family). We don't even have room for our bridal party or my oot aunts and uncles.  What would you do?

p.s. everyone is out of town except  FI and I

katiewhompus

Honestly, if she has 10 rooms, and you have 10 rooms, then the people who wanted to stay with you should have booked first. If you know there are a limited amount of rooms you should try to book asap.
I would send them information on nearby hotels and invite them to the morning brunch. Maybe talk with the current hotel about having extras in for brunch (at a cost) or if you can add rooms to the roomblock.
I think moving to a different hotel already will create a lot of bad feelings with your in-laws and anyone who has already booked in the current hotel.

Brie2010

Frankly, I would just not get involved in this one.  If you need another block at another hotel, make one, but I'd just let this one work itself out and not pick and choose who gets the last room.  That can't possibly end well, IMO.

LesPaul

I would find more rooms nearby for the overflow.  We did something similar - all our OOT family stayed with us at the B&B and we had brunch together before everyone started their travel home.  But, we had enough room at the inn.

jnic0319

OK thanks, that's what mom and FI said, FSIL thinks I should move hotels. 

Katie: she has 10 just for her personal friends and family, which means we have 10 that has to go between my family, our bridal party and our friends; I can't say much though since she did get us the suite.  I just hope no one is pissed that they were left out.  I will also check to see if I can pay if extras who aren't staying at the hotel show up for brunch.

eastunder1

I can't imagine anyone reasonable is going to be angry that they have to stay at a hotel right down the road instead of at this teeny tiny Inn.  It only has twenty rooms, people will understand that it can't include everyone. 

That being said though, does staying or not staying at this hotel affect who can attend the breakfast?  Is it something included in the hotel?  If thats the case I would see about either working out something with the hotel so people not staying there could come at an additional fee, or moving the breakfast.  Simply not staying at the hotel is a non issue, but being excluded from the brunch as a result has the potential to hurt feelings. 

jnic0319

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[QUOTE]I can't imagine anyone reasonable is going to be angry that they have to stay at a hotel right down the road instead of at this teeny tiny Inn.  It only has twenty rooms, people will understand that it can't include everyone.  That being said though, does staying or not staying at this hotel affect who can attend the breakfast?  Is it something included in the hotel?  If thats the case I would see about either working out something with the hotel so people not staying there could come at an additional fee, or moving the breakfast.  <strong>Simply not staying at the hotel is a non issue, but being excluded from the brunch as a result has the potential to hurt feelings. </strong>
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This is the issue.  The breakfast comes with the hotel stay.  The other hotel has a breakfast too, but we won't be there.  I am going to find out if they will accomodate extra people for a fee.  I'm just worried people will feel that we don't appreciate them as much as those who are staying at the inn with us.  I should have thought this whole thing through better.

unplainjane

i don't think it's a big deal. if you're inviting other people to the brunch and they want to go they know they will have to find their own accommodation. as a guest i wouldn't feel bad if i couldn't stay at this inn. definitely though you need to make sure the guests staying elsewhere can have brunch at your inn though. and of course you need to pay any extra costs as the host. i am also staying at a little inn which includes breakfast and they said if i wanted to have other guests for breakfast it's just an extra fee and it wouldn't be a problem.