rsvp-wtf?

ARod22

Got my first uninvited +1 in the mail today.  This lady, a friend of my FI's mom, has decided to bring her grandson.  What made me laugh was that under meal prefence, they checked fish and specified that they would like it baked.  Apparently, we are waitstaff at our own wedding.

kara811

Uhm call her and say you can't accommodate her grandson?

ARod22

FMIL is on top of it  

kara811

Oh that's good news then! Those party crashers! Lol I'm sure the grandson is adorable, but still. NO is NO lol

kara811

Oh nice! Do keep that to yourself! When I read grandson, I totally pictured a cute little boy. And now that I know it's a grown man, then i would be glad to turn him away! haha. They are definitely in the wrong, maybe you need to explain wedding etiquette to them, and tell them to go on TK!

Beachy730

Yeah as for the baked fish part I would just play dumb.  Even if its not baked, they can try requesting it at dinner if they want.  But anyways, does anyone really serve fish fry at their wedding?

ootmother2

time for the phone call!

I can tell it just kills you to have to do it

ARod22

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rsvp-wtf?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1ca23208-1c5a-4be5-b2b0-c03150346bbaPost:f7ca4d0c-21dd-49c9-88fc-8afc03bd03a8">Re: rsvp-wtf?</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah as for the baked fish part I would just play dumb.  Even if its not baked, they can try requesting it at dinner if they want.  But anyways, does anyone really serve fish fry at their wedding?
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

w/e.  I have no energy to explain to them that at a wedding for 140 people, they do not custom make food to order.  They'll get whatever effing fish our venue is serving, and if they dont' like it, we have a kosher option, too.

It just blows my mind when people have no idea that brides do NOT want to hear about people's specific food prefences, because we have other sh!t to do, ya know.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Is her daughter coming? Is she trying to substitute a guest? That doesn't make it okay, but I wonder if she'll make a point about how "you have the room." You know, even though she's being rude.

Beachy730

If she lives at a nursing home it is likely that she will need help getting in and out of the reception and getting around.  Will it really kill your FI to have him there?  I'm so not for the adding or changing who the invite is for, but I think in the event that this guy would basically be her caregiver for the night i would make an exception.  Especially if thats the only way she can come.

ARod22

dnbeach-agreed. Situation changes entirely with that bit of info.  FI's mother is handling it in whatever way she deems appropriate, so I'll allow her to do that, seeing as this is her guest.  Now I think my FI is being a little bit babyish, actually.

Beachy730

Does he have a fair reason to hate this guy?  Or is just an old grudge or something?