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Menu on the website?

I've posted previously asking which would be preferable; general menu selections on the response cards (e.g. beef, fish, vegetarian) or more specific selections (e.g. prime rib, sea bass, polenta). 

The general consensus on this board was to be as specific as possible. It was also suggested that I include additional information, like the style of sauce or vegetables being served with each option, to give guests the full scope. Some people said if they knew mushrooms would be part of a dish that they would choose something else, and other similar things etc. 

I simply cannot list that many menu details on my response cards, they are too small. I have opted to go with the more specific listing (prime rib, sea bass, polenta) but have also decided to post the complete menu on my wedding website for guests to peruse prior to making their selection on their response card. Please tell me if you think this is a good or bad idea? 

I figured it was the perfect place to give the details ahead of time. Only invited guests have access to the website. If they have further questions about the menu then they can contact me. I just thought this was a good way to give them all the information they would need to make their menu selection ahead of time, instead of just giving them the entree type with no further details and then waiting until the day of to present them with the full menu -when it would be too late for them to change their minds. 

I guess I'm just hoping that including this information on my website isn't overkill or tacky. Opinions please.

Also, is it obvious that the polenta is the vegetarian option? I would think so, but am not certain that my guests will realize that unless they read the full menu on the website (and I realize that some people may not even look at the website).

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Re: Menu on the website?

  • As someone who can't remember what she ordered or what any of the other choices were the day of the wedding, I personally feel this is overkill to the max.

    However, I have no food allergies or other dietary restrictions.  Some people are truly interested in everything and want to know. 

    I don't think there's anything wrong with listing the menu details on your website at all.
  • I think that's fine.

    I put chicken, beef and vegetarian on my response cards and put the full menu on the website. I don't know how many people looked at it there but I imagine anyone who really cares will contact you. For example, I have a cousin who I knew was vegetarian but didn't know was gluten-free. She called me to ask whether or not the vegetarian option included pasta (fortunately, it didn't) and I was happy to fill her in on the menu details. I've also attended weddings where I contacted the bride to ask them more specific questions and they just texted me back, no big deal.

    I think what you're doing is fine. Could you write "Polenta (vegetarian)"? Would you have space for that?
  • As an extremely picky eater, I would appreciate the website info very much.
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    [QUOTE]<strong>As someone who can't remember what she ordered or what any of the other choices were the day of the wedding, I personally feel this is overkill to the max.</strong> However, I have no food allergies or other dietary restrictions.  Some people are truly interested in everything and want to know.  I don't think there's anything wrong with listing the menu details on your website at all.
    Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

    <div>Totally get it. </div><div>
    <div>At first I was going to have printed menus at each place setting. But then, I realized that it wouldn't be any help at all to give people the full menu details when it's already too late to change their order. Now I'm thinking I will put one printed menu at each table to remind people of the details if they have forgotten by the time they attend the wedding. </div><div>
    </div><div>And the website info that is available now (4 months before the event and 2 months before the actual invitations are sent) was the best way to provide the details in time for guests to make an educated decision and avoid surprise or disappointment at the wedding.</div></div><div>
    </div><div>I am also super detail oriented and would like to see the menu beforehand myself, if I was a guest. </div>

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  • I definitely think this is a good idea.  I have a shellfish allergy and am lactose intolerant, so I always appreciate more information about food than less.  You just never know who might have dietary restrictions...
  • I think it's fine to put the details on your website.  Also, I would assume the polenta was vegetarian.  
  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    edited February 2013
    We put just the specific entree on our respsonse card.  We didn't list sauces or cooking style anywhere on the card or a website.  We specifically didn't choose any items with mushrooms because I know alot of people don't like them.  Me personally, I HATE mushrooms.  But if I got a dish with it, I'd just push them off to the side.  Also, our venue told us that the response cards gives them an idea of what to expect for meals.  They came around tableside and took everyone's order again and said they would have enough if anyone changed their mind or couldn't remember what they ordered.
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    [QUOTE]We put just the specific entree on our respsonse card.  We didn't list sauces or cooking style anywhere on the card or a website.  <strong>We specifically didn't choose any items with mushrooms because I know alot of people don't like them.</strong>  Me personally, I HATE mushrooms.  But if I got a dish with it, <strong>I'd just push them off to the side.</strong>  Also, our venue told us that the response cards gives them an idea of what to expect for meals.  <strong>They came around tableside and took everyone's order again and said they would have enough if anyone changed their mind or couldn't remember what they ordered.</strong>
    Posted by JoanE2012[/QUOTE]

    <div>Unfortunately all of the vegetarian options available through our caterer include mushrooms. However, with the dish we've selected it would be easy to push said mushrooms to the side. </div><div>
    </div><div>I'm not sure if ordering tableside at the event is an option (might be, considering the caterer is in-house) but I will be sure to ask about this. Thank you for the suggestion.</div>

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  • I think this is a good idea.

    I put "Rotisserie chicken" and "grilled salmon", plus I had a note for special dietary needs because I don't think we have any vegetarian/vegans, but could be wrong.

    I did get specific with "rotisserie" just because I figure there's a substantial difference between a chicken breast baked with some kind of sauce versus a chicken breast still on the bone and roasted.

    I think I'll put a more detailed description with sides on the website as well.

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  • I don't see what the harm would be in putting your detailed menu up. Even if some view it as over kill, it's not hurting anyone. I, myself, am picky so I would appreciate it.
  • I'd be fine with putting your menu on your website.  It would be helpful to anyone with dietary restrictions so they can plan ahead in case there are things on the menu they can't eat.
  • Some diets are better handled by the individual I still have trouble with people trying to get me vegan food while I think its pretty straight forward and simple most people still don't get it so I like your idea :
  • I have no idea what polenta is and wouldn't know it's vegetarian.  I might make an educated guess based on the other other two options being beef and fish.

    I think putting menu information on the website would be helpful.
  • I would get as specific as you could in only a few words. It is useful to have some of the details. As someone that eats fish, but no other meat, if the fish dish had bits of bacon on it, I can't eat it. Polenta also has ham or bacon pieces in it from time to time. I guess picky guests like me could always ask when they RSVP'd. I do like the idea of putting it on your website, too.
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