Celebrating one week of marriage today and am still on the fence about what to do with my name. During the engagement I felt quite strongly about keeping my name and H was adamant that I change it. Several arguments happened due to this and this has been one of our major disagreements. His side was that he wouldn't feel married without it and that's what a wife does. My side was well it's my name and I like the one I've had for the past almost thirty years. Plus that's a shiitload of paperwork. Also my first name with his last name just didn't sound right this is a quick synopsis of several points on both sides
About a week before the wedding H resolved his feelings about the issue and told me he would accept whatever I decide. He's even spoken up afterwords when people ask telling them that I am keeping my name.
Now that we're married and all the wedding stress is gone I could see myself being happy either way. Been thinking about this strongly the last couple of days and am hoping to cure my indecisiveness before I go back to work in two days. Don't want to bring it up to H until I've finalized my decision since its been such a point of contention. While this isn't an etiquette question generally the ladies on this board give the best feedback.